New poly couple going slowly,somewhat.
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sorry that I have been silent but Bear is getting worse again. He goes back tom the vet tomorrow for blood work to check his rbc count and liver function, etc. I hope that they aren't worse than last time. I want them to be improved but I just don't know anymore. I don't want to lose him but I also don't want to prolong his suffering if there is no hope.I am praying that this is just a setback, he came off of his mrs and I a, hoping that he just needs them for longer or maybe a different one.
M had his interview today and it seems like probably got the job! I am not sure about the health insurance because he didn't get enough info about it.
B starts school on Monday and she is excited.
I am severely depressed and I just don't know what to do. It has just been so hard lately and with Bear so sick I am at the end of my rope and my pmdd doesn't help.
Keep you posted.
Well, it was just from taking him off of the steroids too soon and abruptly. He's back on them and doing better again. We will be battling diarrhea for a few days but I can handle that. I just need to go back to the store again and get some more Gatorade and baby food sweet potato or plain pumpkin if I can find it, I also started him on two tablespoons of plain yoghurt a day today.
They did a bunch of labs which thankfully, his foster dad insisted on paying for. I am not sure if they will be doing any fundraising for him now but I will talk to his foster dad once we get the labs back over the next few days and see what he says about it as last time I mentioned the clinic bill, he said he was working in it but after the bill today I just don't know.
We should have his test results no later than Saturday so we will know more what his prognosis and treatment plan are. Now, I just need to figure out now to come up with $1132 in the next several months and the money for his follow ups and meds. The humane society will reimburse the foster dad for his contribution today.
The humane society director told me that I need to start a fundraiser on my own but I wouldn't know how to go about something like that. I mean, I guess if I can find 1132+ ppl to donate $1, that would cover the clinic bill but I don't know how to ask for that. Any suggestions anyone?
Please, no negative comments. I had the emergency clinic do what they needed to do on the word of these people who told me they would help and it could be that they still are. I need more than an hour of sleep in a row and that would be a big help.
B has a web chat homeroom orientation tomorrow from 11:30am-12:30pm. That should be interesting. She will get to "meet" her teacher and some other classmates. Then she officially starts on Monday. She is excited but also worried about Bear and so we'll see how it goes if we do end up losing him.
Keep you posted.
They did a bunch of labs which thankfully, his foster dad insisted on paying for. I am not sure if they will be doing any fundraising for him now but I will talk to his foster dad once we get the labs back over the next few days and see what he says about it as last time I mentioned the clinic bill, he said he was working in it but after the bill today I just don't know.
We should have his test results no later than Saturday so we will know more what his prognosis and treatment plan are. Now, I just need to figure out now to come up with $1132 in the next several months and the money for his follow ups and meds. The humane society will reimburse the foster dad for his contribution today.
The humane society director told me that I need to start a fundraiser on my own but I wouldn't know how to go about something like that. I mean, I guess if I can find 1132+ ppl to donate $1, that would cover the clinic bill but I don't know how to ask for that. Any suggestions anyone?
Please, no negative comments. I had the emergency clinic do what they needed to do on the word of these people who told me they would help and it could be that they still are. I need more than an hour of sleep in a row and that would be a big help.
B has a web chat homeroom orientation tomorrow from 11:30am-12:30pm. That should be interesting. She will get to "meet" her teacher and some other classmates. Then she officially starts on Monday. She is excited but also worried about Bear and so we'll see how it goes if we do end up losing him.
Keep you posted.
Well, Bear is doing better and I guess the humane society is going to try and help with a fundraiser for his bills. We have until Feb 16th to pay it off without interest. B's first week of school is going great. She was advanced to first grade for her core subjects of la/phonics and math. She is loving her classes, especially art and science.
I have a feeling that she will fly through them and be ready to move on to first grade in them before Christmas. I am equally sure that she will most likely move on to second grade in la and math by January at the latest. If so, she will start next year off as a second grader.
M got a new, better paying job. He starts on the 19th. The job is much closer so that should save us in gas money but that will be offset somewhat by the $84 a month parking fee. However, I am probably going to insist that he takes his lunch to work and that will save way more than that so we'll see how it goes. We will technically be without insurance for 2.5 weeks but the Cobra will be retroactive if we need it.
I am hoping that we can make it to the polymunch picnic this month but, we shall see on that as well. If so, perhaps, we can have some luck on the poly front finally.
I have a feeling that she will fly through them and be ready to move on to first grade in them before Christmas. I am equally sure that she will most likely move on to second grade in la and math by January at the latest. If so, she will start next year off as a second grader.
M got a new, better paying job. He starts on the 19th. The job is much closer so that should save us in gas money but that will be offset somewhat by the $84 a month parking fee. However, I am probably going to insist that he takes his lunch to work and that will save way more than that so we'll see how it goes. We will technically be without insurance for 2.5 weeks but the Cobra will be retroactive if we need it.
I am hoping that we can make it to the polymunch picnic this month but, we shall see on that as well. If so, perhaps, we can have some luck on the poly front finally.
B had a great first dance class. The weekend is going well but I am getting restless.I keep dreaming of a man that I have never met and the dreams are quite steamy. I guess it's just my poly side wanting to express itself? M has been annoying me lately as he is doing less and less with the kids and me.
Even more of the care of B and Q and Bear has been falling to me and I am not a happy camper. :| he has always done bedtime, IE bath nights and getting the kids dressed, etc. Now, he cannot get through them without my having to do 60% of the work if not more. He told me, " bath time is too hard, we need to figure something out so I don't have to deal with it, " aka, he wants me to just take it over so he can sit and watch tv.
I am with the kids 90% of the time that they are awake doing for them and him when he's here. I love my family but sometimes it's nice to have 15-20 minutes to sit without having my name called to come and do something. God forbid that I don't jump up to help immediately. On the flip side, I will yell for help when he's up in the office and he has to verify that it's important enough for him to come down and help or not.
The one day, Q had really hurt himself by tripping on a toy and face planting on his hardwood floor and was bleeding everywhere and I couldn't get him to come down and help me get things cleaned up. Grrrr.
Even more of the care of B and Q and Bear has been falling to me and I am not a happy camper. :| he has always done bedtime, IE bath nights and getting the kids dressed, etc. Now, he cannot get through them without my having to do 60% of the work if not more. He told me, " bath time is too hard, we need to figure something out so I don't have to deal with it, " aka, he wants me to just take it over so he can sit and watch tv.
I am with the kids 90% of the time that they are awake doing for them and him when he's here. I love my family but sometimes it's nice to have 15-20 minutes to sit without having my name called to come and do something. God forbid that I don't jump up to help immediately. On the flip side, I will yell for help when he's up in the office and he has to verify that it's important enough for him to come down and help or not.
The one day, Q had really hurt himself by tripping on a toy and face planting on his hardwood floor and was bleeding everywhere and I couldn't get him to come down and help me get things cleaned up. Grrrr.
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And you are telling M. that this is unacceptable, right?
Yes, I have been telling him but he just gets defensive and tells me that we have to help each other. During the day when he's gone doesn't count as far as my not getting help from him but when he's home, I have to help him. I am getting some help from my sister during the day Mon-Fri while I school B so I guess he now figures that I should do even more the rest of the time. Cooking, cleaning, teaching B, etc apparently isn't enough anymore.
I think that he and I will be having a come to Jesus meeting here soon. This can't continue or I am going to lose it.
I think that he and I will be having a come to Jesus meeting here soon. This can't continue or I am going to lose it.
Well, we have a new potential, we'll call him T. He contacted us and we have started the process of getting to know each other. He is also married and both he and his wife are poly and she has confirmed with me that she is aware and fine with his searching out partners.
We shall see how it goes and I will be sure to update.
We shall see how it goes and I will be sure to update.
So far, T and I are still just messaging but it seems to be going well. My sister, N, is unsure how her triad is going as they want her to change a lot but aren't really willing to change at all. I hope she does what's best for her for once and not for them.
All in all, we are doing great right now.
I hope she does what's best for her for once and not for them. All in all, we are doing great right now.
Well, Bear is sicker again. He is autoimmune but we are waiting on the results of a lymph node biopsy that she be in tomorrow to determine if it's primary or secondary to lymphoma. We are crossing our fingers that it is just autoimmune because his prognosis goes from grim to fair with that.
B is up to 1st grade math, la and phonics and may move up to 2nd grade for those and 1st grade for her other subjects in the next month or two. Q is refusing to potty train and I think it's from the changes of B starting school and Bear being so sick.
We will be meeting T and his wife, K on the 24th. Wish us good luck! M and I had a long conversation awhile ago and things are getting better. I am glad about that because it was getting to be too much. If I could sleep, that would help.
Well, keep you updated.
B is up to 1st grade math, la and phonics and may move up to 2nd grade for those and 1st grade for her other subjects in the next month or two. Q is refusing to potty train and I think it's from the changes of B starting school and Bear being so sick.
We will be meeting T and his wife, K on the 24th. Wish us good luck! M and I had a long conversation awhile ago and things are getting better. I am glad about that because it was getting to be too much. If I could sleep, that would help.
Well, keep you updated.
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Well, Bear has end stage Lymphoma. We will be putting him down on Saturday unless he gets really bad before then. We have rescheduled our meet up with T and K as we just can't leave the kids on the same day that we lose our dog.
B won't be doing lessons for awhile except for art and doing extra things to get hours so that she doesn't get behind in those. She is ahead in her lessons anyway. She has an hours buffer too but we need to do a couple of hours a day to keep her on track.
When I shared our sad news with my husband's cousin, she responded with hateful remarks that were completely inappropriate. She is no longer welcome to be apart of the kids' and my life. Not that she makes much of an effort to see them anyway. We haven't seen her since Q's 2nd birthday party and he turned 3 in July. She only lives 30 min from us.
We will not be attending her wedding and if she is where we are for a family thing, I will take the kids and leave. They do not need poisonous, small minded people in their lives. She also told me that doing the virtual academy with B will ruin her and turn her into a social misfit. *rolls eyes* B has always been overly social and the school provides lots of social interaction opportunities. We also got her into dance and she has many friends in the neighborhood as well.
We have her scheduled for achievement and iq testing next week so that we can get her school to properly serve her. They are giving us a hard time about how fast she is moving through the curriculum. They want me to slow her down but this school is supposed to be all about them learning at their own level and pace. We may have to pull her out if we can't get it fixed.
I am hoping that things start to settle down soon. We have had a rough 6 months. I have high hopes about T. Well, I'll check in later.
We will be putting him down on Saturday unless he gets really bad before then. We have rescheduled our meet up with T and K as we just can't leave the kids on the same day that we lose our dog. B won't be doing lessons for awhile except for art and doing extra things to get hours so that she doesn't get behind in those. She is ahead in her lessons anyway. She has an hours buffer too but we need to do a couple of hours a day to keep her on track.
When I shared our sad news with my husband's cousin, she responded with hateful remarks that were completely inappropriate. She is no longer welcome to be apart of the kids' and my life. Not that she makes much of an effort to see them anyway. We haven't seen her since Q's 2nd birthday party and he turned 3 in July. She only lives 30 min from us.
We will not be attending her wedding and if she is where we are for a family thing, I will take the kids and leave. They do not need poisonous, small minded people in their lives. She also told me that doing the virtual academy with B will ruin her and turn her into a social misfit. *rolls eyes* B has always been overly social and the school provides lots of social interaction opportunities. We also got her into dance and she has many friends in the neighborhood as well.
We have her scheduled for achievement and iq testing next week so that we can get her school to properly serve her. They are giving us a hard time about how fast she is moving through the curriculum. They want me to slow her down but this school is supposed to be all about them learning at their own level and pace. We may have to pull her out if we can't get it fixed.
I am hoping that things start to settle down soon. We have had a rough 6 months. I have high hopes about T. Well, I'll check in later.
RIP Bear Tonka R. 3-2-10/9-24-11. We love you and miss you, good boy. Bear is out of his pain now and waiting for me on the Rainbow Bridge. We are doing okay today knowing that he is better off not suffering.
B promised to do her best on her testing.
We will be meeting T and K on Oct 7th at 6:30pm. We shall see how it goes. We are going go take the kids to the zoo later and get out of the house except for N who isn't feeling well today.
B promised to do her best on her testing.
We will be meeting T and K on Oct 7th at 6:30pm. We shall see how it goes. We are going go take the kids to the zoo later and get out of the house except for N who isn't feeling well today.
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B bombed her achievement test on purpose yesterday. We hope that she does better tomorrow on the iq test. It is a different format so that should help. She was bored and scared for some reason that the examiner would share her scores with other kids and they wouldn't want to play with her anymore. I have no idea where she got that from.
We told her we just need to know how best to help her with her schooling and she apologized for not trying.
We are getting closer to meeting T and K. A week from Friday is the day we meet up with them. M will be going with me and we will see how things go.
We told her we just need to know how best to help her with her schooling and she apologized for not trying.
We are getting closer to meeting T and K. A week from Friday is the day we meet up with them. M will be going with me and we will see how things go.
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Yeah, they said it was genetic. B is okay, it's not that she flunked it, it was an achievement test. She just didn't answer all of the questions that she could have so we won't get an accurate measure of what she knows to show her school.
Today she is taking the iq testing and it should give us a more accurate measure of her abilities. She is only 5, not quite 6 but her school is giving us a hard time about her moving so quickly through her courses.
Today she is taking the iq testing and it should give us a more accurate measure of her abilities. She is only 5, not quite 6 but her school is giving us a hard time about her moving so quickly through her courses.
She has been reading and writing for more than 2 years and she can read at a 6th grade level and add, subtract, multiply and divide. We are having the testing done because her school is supposed to be set up to let her work at her level in all subjects and they are giving us a hard time about it. She doesn't like to be timed though and that was part of her issue with the achievement test. She is doing a virtual academy so it's public school at home using the K12 curriculum.
The achievement test was done to show the school where she's at in an unbiased format but she didn't answer all that she knew so the test won't show us her true abilities as far as what she already knows. The iq test will show us her level of giftedness though so we will know how much differentiation she is going to need moving forward and what the best type of schooling is for her. It seems that the one she is in is a good fit if we can get them to cooperate with us. She would be bored to tears in a regular school and the gifted school here is a 45min-hour drive 1 way and they have a 7 hour school day so all that she would have time for is school.
She is pulling us for learning so I want to make sure that she has access to challenging and level appropriate materials even if she is only 5, she still deserves an education at her level.
The achievement test was done to show the school where she's at in an unbiased format but she didn't answer all that she knew so the test won't show us her true abilities as far as what she already knows. The iq test will show us her level of giftedness though so we will know how much differentiation she is going to need moving forward and what the best type of schooling is for her. It seems that the one she is in is a good fit if we can get them to cooperate with us. She would be bored to tears in a regular school and the gifted school here is a 45min-hour drive 1 way and they have a 7 hour school day so all that she would have time for is school.
She is pulling us for learning so I want to make sure that she has access to challenging and level appropriate materials even if she is only 5, she still deserves an education at her level.
Sorry about Bear.
Ah, schools, LOL. I homeschooled my daughter until 2nd grade then I had to go back to work but luckily at the time we lived right next to a Charter school that was wonderful. They had "levels" instead of grades, so the kids could stay in whatever level suited them socially and academically. If they were socially a bit behind but academically ahead, they'd be in the K-2, if they were a bit more socially inclined they'd advance to the 2-4 level, etc. They also had groups for math/reading, etc based on ability not age. Love that school.
Of course they lost one of the charter sponsors so had to recharter and the school district wouldn't approve it. Two months later the texting results for San Diego came back and that school had the highest improvement in scores of any school in the county. :-\
The district doesn't like it when they don't control things.
Anyway... hopefully the school will cooperate. Any chance you can retake the test? Tell them she was afraid a higher score would make her friends not like her? Kids, LOL...
Ah, schools, LOL. I homeschooled my daughter until 2nd grade then I had to go back to work but luckily at the time we lived right next to a Charter school that was wonderful. They had "levels" instead of grades, so the kids could stay in whatever level suited them socially and academically. If they were socially a bit behind but academically ahead, they'd be in the K-2, if they were a bit more socially inclined they'd advance to the 2-4 level, etc. They also had groups for math/reading, etc based on ability not age. Love that school.
Of course they lost one of the charter sponsors so had to recharter and the school district wouldn't approve it. Two months later the texting results for San Diego came back and that school had the highest improvement in scores of any school in the county. :-\
The district doesn't like it when they don't control things.
Anyway... hopefully the school will cooperate. Any chance you can retake the test? Tell them she was afraid a higher score would make her friends not like her?
Kids, LOL...