New to Foruming about My Lifestyle!

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Seska

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Hello!

I'm not super new to Polyamory. I've been married for 8 years, and I've had a "boyfriend" for 6 years. I tell almost no one in real life, because our religious beliefs (and therefore the people we tend to associate with) do not remotely approve of such a lifestyle.

I did open up about it in a Facebook group, and someone from that group later became a real life friend. Long story short, we got in a fight, and in order to hurt me she told many of our mutual friends about my life style choices, and now.. well, the word "shunned" comes to mind.

I'm really hoping to find a community, even a small one, where I can open up about stuff without it coming back to bite me in the ass later. <_< I was hoping to find a super secret squirrel Facebook group, but that's proving difficult since I don't anyone else who's opening in a polyamorous (or even a Swinger) relationship.

So, that's my story. A few details about me: I play World of Warcraft, I have four children, I live in Utah, and I'm on Facebook in excess.
 
Greetings Seska,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I am an ex-Utahn and an ex-Mormon, so we may have a thing or two in common! I've even played WoW, not so much lately but.

I think Polyamory.com is "super secret" enough, as long as you don't use anyone's real names in your posts. Not that I can guarantee that ...

So a lot of people found out about your poly-ness via your ex-friend who outed you on Facebook? I mean, does basically everyone know by now? Maybe you're already as shunned as you can be, is what I'm saying. Especially if your community is very gossipy.

I just hope you'll be able to enjoy your time on our site, give and receive advice, ask and answer questions, etc.

Good to have you onboard.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
I don't think everyone knows - just the circle of friends I ran with. I am working on making a new circle of friends. And there is even one person from that circle who doesn't care. Yay!
 
Yeah, sometimes when you get outed, you learn who your real friends are, eh. People should just be happy for you if you are happy.

You'll find some more friends, I feel sure of it. Hang in there!
 
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