DesireForFire
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All of my life I was very romantic, very monogomous, very old fashioned. I've been friends with a poly couple for the past two years now, but just that - friends. I cherish her friendship and refuse to be his play thing. This past Thanksgiving they had invited me to one of their play parties. I was hesitant but he filled me in on how it works, the do's, the don'ts, etc. He even showed me pictures of some of the people that were attending. One gentleman in particular caught my eye.
I decided to at very least dress the part and donned a school girl outfit with thigh high boots. The party started in the kitchen with some vanilla socializing. I was only a little nervous at this point as I didn't know anyone but the couple I was friends with. Then, he walked in the room and I immediately felt flush. He came to say hello and we spoke, but only briefly. I told him i was from NJ (my friends live in MD) and I told him I had never participated in a lifestyle party before.
About an hour later, the kitchen started emptying and that's when I really got nervous. What did I want to do? I knew if I didn't at least try, I'd regret it later. I made my way into the finished basement where everyone had disappeared to. I decided to only go halfway down the steps and sit in observance first. There was porn on the big screen tv and everyone was just starting to kiss and caress.
One woman told me to come down. At first I said no, but then I joined in. After a few minutes, I noticed several people heading towards where I was and, knowing I was the 'virgin' I figured I might end up being "dog pile on the rabbit" which I totally didn't want. One couple had me move to a different part of the room and sat me on the bed there. They played and I was left to myself. Suddenly, as if out of nowhere, HE appeared by my side and said, "Hi Jersey girl." He kissed me in a way that absolutely melted me. We played for what I was told was about an hour and then he had to go. His WIFE was there and she said they had to go pick up their KIDS.
The following day, my friend came to me and said that HE texted and asked if I wanted his number. I said yes and texted him right away. He said he wanted to make sure I was ok, that what happened between us didn't bother me and that participating in the party didn't bother me. Bother me? I was ecstatic! I hadn't had sex in several months before that and he was absolutely amazing! He told me he practices Tantric sex. I didn't really care what it was called, I wanted a lot more of it.
A few phone conversations later he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes and quickly began doing some research. He told me his wife said he should have a girlfriend since he is much more sexually driven than she is. He even gave me her number. He explained that there were two other women he tried to have as his girlfriend but one was crazy and the other was too needy/materialistic. I told him I didn't want to be just a play thing. He agreed that it wasn't what he wanted either.
Fast forward to today.... (2 months later)
When had given me his wife's number, he told me she doesn't like to text or be on the phone much. She told me this herself as well. She also told me she didn't want a three way chat conversation like my other friends had when they had a girlfriend.
Since being HIS girlfriend, we have texted every day several times and spoken a number of times on the phone. We talk about everything, not just sexually related topics. I've driven out to MD a few times to visit my friends and to spend time with HIM. A few times HE said I couldn't spend time with him because it was too much for her. In fact, there was a weekend I was going to go to MD and he said I probably shouldn't meet with him that weekend because I'd already met with him the two weekends before and it would 'probably' be too much for her.
We've moved our relationship discussions into D/s and even the idea of M/S but I'm not sure how it's going to work if she is really the one pulling the strings. I want to talk to her to clarify what her feelings really are.
Thoughts?
All of my life I was very romantic, very monogomous, very old fashioned. I've been friends with a poly couple for the past two years now, but just that - friends. I cherish her friendship and refuse to be his play thing. This past Thanksgiving they had invited me to one of their play parties. I was hesitant but he filled me in on how it works, the do's, the don'ts, etc. He even showed me pictures of some of the people that were attending. One gentleman in particular caught my eye.
I decided to at very least dress the part and donned a school girl outfit with thigh high boots. The party started in the kitchen with some vanilla socializing. I was only a little nervous at this point as I didn't know anyone but the couple I was friends with. Then, he walked in the room and I immediately felt flush. He came to say hello and we spoke, but only briefly. I told him i was from NJ (my friends live in MD) and I told him I had never participated in a lifestyle party before.
About an hour later, the kitchen started emptying and that's when I really got nervous. What did I want to do? I knew if I didn't at least try, I'd regret it later. I made my way into the finished basement where everyone had disappeared to. I decided to only go halfway down the steps and sit in observance first. There was porn on the big screen tv and everyone was just starting to kiss and caress.
One woman told me to come down. At first I said no, but then I joined in. After a few minutes, I noticed several people heading towards where I was and, knowing I was the 'virgin' I figured I might end up being "dog pile on the rabbit" which I totally didn't want. One couple had me move to a different part of the room and sat me on the bed there. They played and I was left to myself. Suddenly, as if out of nowhere, HE appeared by my side and said, "Hi Jersey girl." He kissed me in a way that absolutely melted me. We played for what I was told was about an hour and then he had to go. His WIFE was there and she said they had to go pick up their KIDS.
The following day, my friend came to me and said that HE texted and asked if I wanted his number. I said yes and texted him right away. He said he wanted to make sure I was ok, that what happened between us didn't bother me and that participating in the party didn't bother me. Bother me? I was ecstatic! I hadn't had sex in several months before that and he was absolutely amazing! He told me he practices Tantric sex. I didn't really care what it was called, I wanted a lot more of it.
A few phone conversations later he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes and quickly began doing some research. He told me his wife said he should have a girlfriend since he is much more sexually driven than she is. He even gave me her number. He explained that there were two other women he tried to have as his girlfriend but one was crazy and the other was too needy/materialistic. I told him I didn't want to be just a play thing. He agreed that it wasn't what he wanted either.
Fast forward to today.... (2 months later)
When had given me his wife's number, he told me she doesn't like to text or be on the phone much. She told me this herself as well. She also told me she didn't want a three way chat conversation like my other friends had when they had a girlfriend.
Since being HIS girlfriend, we have texted every day several times and spoken a number of times on the phone. We talk about everything, not just sexually related topics. I've driven out to MD a few times to visit my friends and to spend time with HIM. A few times HE said I couldn't spend time with him because it was too much for her. In fact, there was a weekend I was going to go to MD and he said I probably shouldn't meet with him that weekend because I'd already met with him the two weekends before and it would 'probably' be too much for her.
We've moved our relationship discussions into D/s and even the idea of M/S but I'm not sure how it's going to work if she is really the one pulling the strings. I want to talk to her to clarify what her feelings really are.
Thoughts?
