Greetings,
This is my first post to the forum. I have been looking for a place to talk about polyamory and read about other's experiences and maybe even share mine.
I am a married woman, married to the same man for 38 years. We embarked on our journey into polyamory as a result of a relationship changing event, he cheated after 36 years of marriage. We went through turbulent times for about 6 months after, but agreed we wouldn't know life without each other. So how could we keep our relationship but enjoy the company of others without cheating? We talked about how our relationship had gone stale and how are interests had drifted apart. In addition, I travel with my job all the time and he was often left home and would get lonely.
We began by talking about our emotional and physical needs and how they differed and how we could live together while getting these needs satisfied. We began by exploring our options, swinging, etc. and that's how we actually got to where we are today. We started attending swinger's meet and greets and ended up meeting "single" people who were there. We both ended up "hooking up" with these individuals after a couple of meetings. I ended up having a connection immediately and was attracted right away. My husband liked the idea of me with another partner and encouraged the relationship. It has now been a year and we all get along well. My husband meets my emotional needs and family ties with his family, my family and our grown children. My partner is a professional as I am, and we share professional ideas and enjoy each others company in and out of the bedroom. My husbands relationship is a bit different in that his partner is married, but fortunately they were/are in an open relationship so it seems to work for them. I am not sure what the definition of polyamory is, but I believe we are by many of the definitions in this type of relationship.
We are now just beginning to share our relationship status with our closet friends and family and they are quite shocked but also agree that as long as we are together and happy, it counts. I am a pretty conservative business woman and most are shocked that I would even do or agree to this.
So far things are smooth. I see my partner a couple of times each month and my husband sees his. We consider each other first and are careful to seek permission before getting together with our partners. So far...so good. No emotional complications.
Thanks for listening to my story. It will be nice to share with others in the same situation.
This is my first post to the forum. I have been looking for a place to talk about polyamory and read about other's experiences and maybe even share mine.
I am a married woman, married to the same man for 38 years. We embarked on our journey into polyamory as a result of a relationship changing event, he cheated after 36 years of marriage. We went through turbulent times for about 6 months after, but agreed we wouldn't know life without each other. So how could we keep our relationship but enjoy the company of others without cheating? We talked about how our relationship had gone stale and how are interests had drifted apart. In addition, I travel with my job all the time and he was often left home and would get lonely.
We began by talking about our emotional and physical needs and how they differed and how we could live together while getting these needs satisfied. We began by exploring our options, swinging, etc. and that's how we actually got to where we are today. We started attending swinger's meet and greets and ended up meeting "single" people who were there. We both ended up "hooking up" with these individuals after a couple of meetings. I ended up having a connection immediately and was attracted right away. My husband liked the idea of me with another partner and encouraged the relationship. It has now been a year and we all get along well. My husband meets my emotional needs and family ties with his family, my family and our grown children. My partner is a professional as I am, and we share professional ideas and enjoy each others company in and out of the bedroom. My husbands relationship is a bit different in that his partner is married, but fortunately they were/are in an open relationship so it seems to work for them. I am not sure what the definition of polyamory is, but I believe we are by many of the definitions in this type of relationship.
We are now just beginning to share our relationship status with our closet friends and family and they are quite shocked but also agree that as long as we are together and happy, it counts. I am a pretty conservative business woman and most are shocked that I would even do or agree to this.
So far things are smooth. I see my partner a couple of times each month and my husband sees his. We consider each other first and are careful to seek permission before getting together with our partners. So far...so good. No emotional complications.
Thanks for listening to my story. It will be nice to share with others in the same situation.
