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Psyche01

Psyche01

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Hi everyone,

I've been with my bf for 2 years and still feel new to Polyamory. I have a son with ASD who comes first over anything. Being a single mom, dating has never been my first thought and since being with my partner, I feel extra cautious about having another partner, though that is what I want. I would love to talk to other parents in non-mono relationships and hear their stories. I work from home as an independent (chemical free) consultant and hoping to go back to school this fall. I hope to make some new friends here and hear some great stories and get good advice.

Cheers :D
 
Hi Psyche -

My youngest (11) has autism and I come at parenting a special needs child a little differently (since you asked for stories.) I see so many parents making their ASD kids the center of their world, losing marriages and fulfilling personal lives because of it. My experience with my youngest is teaching me that the sky is the limit as far as I could perceive his need for me. There will never come a time when he will be totally independent of the need for parenting, so I have been forced (or blessed ,as I'd rather see it) to find a way to live my life for me, not only for him. Nobody really needs to come first, second or third if I am allowing myself the active and limit-free social life that brings me so much joy. I'm emotionally available to my kids, my husband, my friends and my lovers because I'm not living a life of sacrifice and limited energy. It's a perspective that keeps me full instead of keeps me in a place of having to constantly prioritize.

My experience of being a parent of a special needs kid is that the message is constantly, "Be a good parent by being involved, sacrificing your needs, your time, your personal desires" and I just don't see that advice bearing much fruit. I've found the opposite - that the more freedom and joy I experience in my personal, non-parenting life, the more energy and genuine availability I have for my kids.
 
Welcome

Hi Psyche!

Welcome! You will find no nicer (and less judgy) people anywhere. Tell us all about about yourself and what you're looking for.

You will get awesome feedback and advice.

TNC
 
Greetings Psyche01,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I don't have any kids but I have been diagnosed with Asperger's, if that helps. Would be happy to answer any questions. More on my psychological history can be found in my blog thread.

I wish you the best in your exploration of what it means to be poly. Hopefully we can help.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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