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Aztech

Aztech

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Hiya,
My name is Aaron and I'm very new to all of this, I'm a demisexual man who has only ever been monogamous. I have been messaging someone on a dating site for the last week and we are meeting up on a date tomorrow, she informed me last night that she is polyamorous (I had to google it). From our communication I have become attached as I usually do, I like her but I'm unsure if I can enter into this sort of relationship. I'm still going to meet her tomorrow and see how things go, I've been hurt in previous relationships and knowing that she could date other people may hurt me but having never tried it before I don't know. I unforuanetly need a deep emotional bond with someone so I don't think I can handle it if I'm honest.

Thank you for your time.
Aaron:confused:
 
Greetings Aaron,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

What about the idea of having a mono/poly relationship? The woman you are dating is poly, you could still be mono (only have one partner yourself). In any case there's no need for you two to date other people simultaneously. I mean there's no rule that says you have to do that.

I hope we can be helpful to you.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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I feel better about everything now

Hiya, I would like to thank those who have read my thread. The date went well and I understand better, well what it is that she wants better. Talking to her has helped, not only reassure me but I now understand her needs. I also feel I understand everything better having talked to her, as I have a better understanding now than just reading things on the internet, as hearing about it and talking about things help me greater than just reading. I feel that if things go further and I don't mess up as I have a tendency to dive in full hearted and scare people away but I feel that I can make this work because I like her and more than that I feel connected to her in a way I feel I never have with anyone else. Thank you again, if I need any more advice I'd seek it out here but I doubt that I will as my date said communication is key so I can always talk to her.
 
Glad to hear things are working out with her. We're always here to talk, if and whenever you need it.
 
I still have worries but it's a bit personal

Thank, I still have worries but it's on a personal level so it's best to talk to her about it but let's just say it's feelings of inadequacy (I'm not very experienced) she's the fifth person I've dated but that's a whole different thing. Again I'll talk to her about these insecurities. I also know they are unfounded but they are there.

Thank you
 
No prob, I hope you can get those insecurities sorted out.
 
Me too

Me too, I'm always working on myself and finding myself so with a good talk I believe I can get over if not remove these feelings of insecurity. I think this will be good for me and I'm an open person. Time will tell, it's only been one date but she has said she likes me and would like to see me again. I'll keep my profile on here if I ever do need to ask for or read anything on here to help. Thanks again.
 
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