Hi. So i've been poly since 3-4 years now.
Recently I started a triad with a couple, but let me give you some details.
G is a friend i know since a couple of years ago, but in 2016 we started a master's degree in the same place. We both live in different cities, so we see each other when we go to classes in M city (different from our cities). This year our friendship grew a lot.
Later, in october i started sending mails with his girlfriend "D". We liked each other and flirt a lot.
A weeks after we started ewriting to each other she also went to M city. We went out and kiss. Everything was nice. The next month se went to M city too and one thing let to another so the 3 of us ended up kissing and a lot more.
I never tought of G in that way, because he wasn't poly. (They were opening their relationship but not poly though). But after that, I started seeing him different and started to learn to love him in different ways. I liked the idea of the 3 of us. And the seem to like it too.
We talked about it and we all decided to start a traid, a new relatiosnhip with the 3 of us. It was nice for a month. But a few days ago I received a mail from D telling me it was all too fast and that now she knows she doesnt want that. She wrote we can stay frinds and flirt, but that's all for now. And she also told me she would like to G and me stay as friends too (didn't said anything about the sexual part).
Later when i talked to G, he told me that D was okay with us having a friendship with physical contact (kisses, hugs, but not sex).
But I don't know, she also said she was okay with other stuff, and she changed her mind o realized new things all of a sudden (which I tottaly understand). Should I trust she's confortable with this?
I feel weird. I feel disposable, I know its not like that but you know how feels are. Also i'm angry because it wasn't a conversation, i just felt she "notificated" me without asking who i felt or showing concern on how and what would that mean to me and to G and our relationship.
Have you ever lived something like this? Entering to a relationship with a couple and after 2 months of talk, ilusions and stuff, being told that you cant be there anymore. And having some big feelings for the one who was a very good friend?
(If you don't understand something feel free to ask, english is not my first language).
Recently I started a triad with a couple, but let me give you some details.
G is a friend i know since a couple of years ago, but in 2016 we started a master's degree in the same place. We both live in different cities, so we see each other when we go to classes in M city (different from our cities). This year our friendship grew a lot.
Later, in october i started sending mails with his girlfriend "D". We liked each other and flirt a lot.
A weeks after we started ewriting to each other she also went to M city. We went out and kiss. Everything was nice. The next month se went to M city too and one thing let to another so the 3 of us ended up kissing and a lot more.
I never tought of G in that way, because he wasn't poly. (They were opening their relationship but not poly though). But after that, I started seeing him different and started to learn to love him in different ways. I liked the idea of the 3 of us. And the seem to like it too.
We talked about it and we all decided to start a traid, a new relatiosnhip with the 3 of us. It was nice for a month. But a few days ago I received a mail from D telling me it was all too fast and that now she knows she doesnt want that. She wrote we can stay frinds and flirt, but that's all for now. And she also told me she would like to G and me stay as friends too (didn't said anything about the sexual part).
Later when i talked to G, he told me that D was okay with us having a friendship with physical contact (kisses, hugs, but not sex).
But I don't know, she also said she was okay with other stuff, and she changed her mind o realized new things all of a sudden (which I tottaly understand). Should I trust she's confortable with this?
I feel weird. I feel disposable, I know its not like that but you know how feels are. Also i'm angry because it wasn't a conversation, i just felt she "notificated" me without asking who i felt or showing concern on how and what would that mean to me and to G and our relationship.
Have you ever lived something like this? Entering to a relationship with a couple and after 2 months of talk, ilusions and stuff, being told that you cant be there anymore. And having some big feelings for the one who was a very good friend?
(If you don't understand something feel free to ask, english is not my first language).
