New UK Couple

[LincsPolyCpl]

Hey all,

We're a married couple from the UK and are new to Polyamory. I say new, we're newly decided that this is for us and how we wish to live our lives and using the term but we have been living with the idea for a while.

Martyn 40 bi male, Charley 38 bi female.

Looking to expand out knowledge, make friends and understand more about our choices as we grow further in our life together.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Martyn and Charley,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I'm glad you found us, you will be able to make a good contribution here and receive thoughts and advice as well. If you have any questions let us know, have a look around and explore. It sounds like you're mostly just new to the terminology. Enjoy your stay!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!

 

[Magdlyn]

Hey all,

We're a married couple from the UK and are new to Polyamory. I say new, we're newly decided that this is for us and how we wish to live our lives and using the term but we have been living with the idea for a while.

Martyn 40 bi male, Charley 38 bi female.

Looking to expand out knowledge, make friends and understand more about our choices as we grow further in our life together.

Hi, welcome. Feel free to read our Guidelines and glossary.

We ask the poly couples each get their own account, or if you must share an account, at least each person should sign each post so the members know who is actually posting. We are independent people here, and we operate knowing that each individual has their own opinions, questions, and needs.

 

[Al99]

Welcome to the Forum! We have a good number of experienced poly folks here so please do not hesitate to post any specific thoughts and questions that you might have.

As Magdlyn noted, please do not let us know who is writing - and separate accounts are best. While some forms of consensual non-monogamy, such as swinging, are couple-centric, polyamory is not generally considered to be - even when a married couple is making the transition together to polyamory (as my wife and I did about three years ago). Most married poly couples do date separately, each with their own partner, despite the public perception of poly as being full of FMF triads. If you do have a triad situation in mind, I would highly recommend the following very informative and intelligent article:

https://davidlnoble.livejournal.com/176039.html

Also, here is a link to a list of some of the best poly websites that you might find helpful:

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=108191

Again, welcome, and we will look forward to hearing how your story unfolds!

Al