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Hello, My name is Corey. I am 22 years old, and in a committed relationship. We are both interested in poly (she is 22 also). We have been talking lately about adding another girl to our relationship, and the boundaries we will set.We live in missouri, but, we live in BFE. So t is kind of hard for us to find someone. I am here to learn more about poly, and such. So hopefully we can aďd another girl in the near future.

Thank you.
 
"Boundaries you will set" can be a bit of a red flag that you aren't ready for polyamory. You're already realizing it can be hard to find that person who is compatible for your relationship. Putting unrealistic restrictions will repel a lot of women who might otherwise be a wonderful fit for you. Things like, "You have to love us both equally," "You can't fall in love too quickly/at all," "You have to be sexual with both of us," "You can't have any input on our relationship structure," "My girlfriend's needs will always come first," etc.

What kind of rules are you thinking of?
 
Greetings Corey,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I like that your partner and you are going into this poly thing together; you can learn the ropes together. If she even wants to register herself on Polyamory.com that would be kind of cool.

Do lots of reading and studying about polyamory while you are waiting for that special someone to arrive in your lives. You may hear the words "unicorn hunter" tossed around so just be prepared. Seems like so many newly-poly couples these days just automatically want to add a lady to their relationship. Poly comes in many shapes and sizes and you never know what might work out well for you.

Glad you could join us and I hope you will enjoy your stay.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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