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funkymichelle

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Hello all, I'm Michelle. I'm a 28 year old transfeminine woman, who has recently begun a relationship with two partners. It is a distance relationship, at the moment, my two partners are living together on the West Coast, and I'm out further East. I'm seeking guidance in this new type of relationship, before there become any complications. Previously, I've been a serial monogamist, but when I was with my most serious partner, I became confused at the fact that I loved both her, and someone I had met long before our relationship. This is a little disjointed, but I'm just looking for some tips and advice I guess. I want to close the distance gap within a year if possible.
 
Hi and welcome to the forum.

I've had several LDR. Two things I would recommend is try spending some in person time before moving. Also, have an exit strategy for when you do move. I know that sounds like it goes against the grain of hoping for the best, but getting stuck in a bad situation in a new location sucks.

I would also suggest reading up on some of the pitfalls of being a "unicorn" or entering into a triad with an existing couple.
 
Greetings Michelle,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I just have one bit of advice for now, and that is, communicate. Both quantity and quality, communication is important. Also honesty and transparency. Don't try to hide your feelings. Sometimes you just have to take a chance, let your partners in. And do lots of reading and posting here, there is a lot of helpful wisdom and information here to tap into. Also you'll probably want updated advice as your situation evolves.

Glad you could be with us,
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Hi Michelle - welcome to the Forum! I've been here for several months now after my wife and I transitioned our marriage to polyamory - and have found most folks here to be friendly and helpful, with lots of sound advice. If you have specific questions about poly relationships, try posting in the "Poly Relationships Corner" - it is generally very active and you will most likely get some good responses. Best of luck on your poly journey. Al
 
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