Awesome!! And Takenoko is an adorable game!
It is. We are going to give it another go tonight.
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It is. We are going to give it another go tonight.
Well, I won Takenoko the next time I played as well, haha!
So... I spent one day feeling incredibly frustrated with Darkwing and Punk. And then yesterday finally making some good communication happen.
2 days ago I tried to communicate with both of them by text but didnt get my questions answered. So being the stubborn bastard that I am, I tried again yesterday and made some progress!
Honestly, I'd give up on Darkwing at this point, if he weren't so tall, dark, handsome, muscular, kissable, huge Hollywood smile, smart, successful in his career, loving of his kids, doesn't seem to suffer from anxiety or depression (a welcome change), isn't on the autism spectrum, easy to talk to (in person), friendly to miss pixi without acting like he secretly wants to bone her, incredibly well hung, highly sexed, and multi orgasmic.
Hmmm, that is quite a list of good things, huh?
He has cancelled our last 3 dates. First one, it was supposed to be a lunch time date, and he couldn't get away from work, because 2 guys called in sick. Second date, because he had a cold. Third, because his troubled son was just moving in with him from his mom's place out west.
The thing is, he doesn't text in between (cancelled) dates. And at this point we haven't seen each other in 2 months. Last time I texted him, asking how things were going with his son, was 2 weeks ago. He texted back saying he'd call me. BUT he didn't call me!
So, I texted him yesterday. He then called me. He reminded me he hates texting, except for very basic things like scheduling (or cancelling, apparently ).
So, I went ahead and told him I feel distant from him since it's been so long since we've met or talked in person. I told him I would definitely not be ready to hop in the sack with him if and when he showed up again. How I am not a fucktoy and I don't do "fuck buddies," I need to have at least some emotional component with someone, or I will not desire them.
Maybe I finally got through to him? He apologized for not calling in those 2 weeks. He asked me to go to lunch in two days (tomorrow now, ie: Wednesday). Just lunch. So we can talk and catch up. I got what I wanted. If he makes it. We will see. He said he'd come here at 12:30.
I know he is not experienced in poly. He was a swinger for a decade. He was in a triad with his wife and their shared gf (yuck) for a year or so up until spring of 2014. I don't think he gets how being poly takes good communication skills. He apparently didn't need them to be a swinger. After all, everyone is at a party for sex, and not much else. So EVERYONE is a fuck toy. And the triad he had, they did it terribly, moving the gf in after only knowing her a couple months, all kinds of jealousy, etc. I hope we can continue to progress as poly partners, since he does seem worth it in some compelling ways.
Next post: Punk.
So... I spent one day feeling incredibly frustrated with Darkwing and Punk. And then yesterday finally making some good communication happen.
2 days ago I tried to communicate with both of them by text but didnt get my questions answered. So being the stubborn bastard that I am, I tried again yesterday and made some progress!
Honestly, I'd give up on Darkwing at this point, if he weren't so tall, dark, handsome, muscular, kissable, huge Hollywood smile, smart, successful in his career, loving of his kids, doesn't seem to suffer from anxiety or depression (a welcome change), isn't on the autism spectrum, easy to talk to (in person), friendly to miss pixi without acting like he secretly wants to bone her, incredibly well hung, highly sexed, and multi orgasmic.
Hmmm, that is quite a list of good things, huh?
He has cancelled our last 3 dates. First one, it was supposed to be a lunch time date, and he couldn't get away from work, because 2 guys called in sick. Second date, because he had a cold. Third, because his troubled son was just moving in with him from his mom's place out west.
The thing is, he doesn't text in between (cancelled) dates. And at this point we haven't seen each other in 2 months. Last time I texted him, asking how things were going with his son, was 2 weeks ago. He texted back saying he'd call me. BUT he didn't call me!
So, I texted him yesterday. He then called me. He reminded me he hates texting, except for very basic things like scheduling (or cancelling, apparently
).So, I went ahead and told him I feel distant from him since it's been so long since we've met or talked in person. I told him I would definitely not be ready to hop in the sack with him if and when he showed up again. How I am not a fucktoy and I don't do "fuck buddies," I need to have at least some emotional component with someone, or I will not desire them.
Maybe I finally got through to him? He apologized for not calling in those 2 weeks. He asked me to go to lunch in two days (tomorrow now, ie: Wednesday). Just lunch. So we can talk and catch up. I got what I wanted. If he makes it. We will see. He said he'd come here at 12:30.
I know he is not experienced in poly. He was a swinger for a decade. He was in a triad with his wife and their shared gf (yuck) for a year or so up until spring of 2014. I don't think he gets how being poly takes good communication skills. He apparently didn't need them to be a swinger. After all, everyone is at a party for sex, and not much else. So EVERYONE is a fuck toy. And the triad he had, they did it terribly, moving the gf in after only knowing her a couple months, all kinds of jealousy, etc. I hope we can continue to progress as poly partners, since he does seem worth it in some compelling ways.
Next post: Punk.
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Unlike Darkwing, Punk prefers texting to phone calls. I do too, so that's a great thing.
I asked him a lot of questions yesterday. He said he is glad I did. He said he doesn't tend to offer information, but will happily answer any questions.
So, after asking, I found out he is now feeling "hunky dory." His IBS has subsided for now. But he also has an appointment with a gastro doc for Jan 26.
And he finally got his GP to prescribe him the mood stabilizer he was missing! I don't know when he finally got that filled, or how he talked her into it, but it's been long enough now that he is feeling good again.
Yay! That was such a relief to find out.
His impetigo has also completely healed, so he is eager for sex. I guess he just couldn't get in the mood for it last time, since he didn't feel comfortable kissing or giving oral sex, both of which he loves.
On the other hand, he doesn't like his GP. He has had her for several years and would prefer someone nicer. He said she is kind of a bitch. But since he has this phone phobia, he gets all verklempt about finding new docs. He still hasn't found a psychiatrist, and can't seem to make the effort to put together a list of potential psych or GP docs.
I offered to help. He said he'd accept that, if indeed I could help. He doesn't seem to be able to wrap his head around finding docs, researching their background on the net, and making a first appointment/interview.
So, while texting, we set a date for Sunday. After we (hopefully) have wild hot kinky monkey sex, I will sit down in front of my computer with him and make him look up drs and write a list of potentials. As for actually making the phone calls, we will see. If I have to meet him during the day during the week to punch the numbers into his phone and then hand it to him, I will. I understand how hard it is for depressed people with issues around self care, to look for help. I am really looking forward to kicking his ass to do this, if he really wants me to.
Yesterday I drove miss pixi to her therapy appointment in Boston. Lately she's been taking the train to all her appts, but I wanted to drive her this time, since my son has been here since last Wednesday and I wanted time completely alone with her.
We made it a nice date day. During her appointment I waited in the car, and made those texts and calls to Punk and Darkwing. Then she rejoined me. We drove towards home, but stopped in Framingham for a late lunch at the pub at which I'd had my first and only date with Hippie. miss pixi sometimes gets envious of my drinks/lunch/dinner dates with men, and I was happy to bring her to that pub. It was good food, and we had the cutest nicest waiter. We both got a crush on him. lol It was so peaceful in the pub, post lunch hour, and so nice to just focus on the two of us after all the socializing of the holiday. So that was very relaxing and fun.
Then we went and spent some time in TJs shopping and looking. Besides groceries, vitamins and wine, I also found boxes of fancy cookies for my 2 elderly relatives, my dad and aunt, for their Xmas gifts.
I asked him a lot of questions yesterday. He said he is glad I did. He said he doesn't tend to offer information, but will happily answer any questions.
So, after asking, I found out he is now feeling "hunky dory." His IBS has subsided for now. But he also has an appointment with a gastro doc for Jan 26.
And he finally got his GP to prescribe him the mood stabilizer he was missing! I don't know when he finally got that filled, or how he talked her into it, but it's been long enough now that he is feeling good again.
Yay! That was such a relief to find out.
His impetigo has also completely healed, so he is eager for sex. I guess he just couldn't get in the mood for it last time, since he didn't feel comfortable kissing or giving oral sex, both of which he loves.
On the other hand, he doesn't like his GP. He has had her for several years and would prefer someone nicer. He said she is kind of a bitch. But since he has this phone phobia, he gets all verklempt about finding new docs. He still hasn't found a psychiatrist, and can't seem to make the effort to put together a list of potential psych or GP docs.
I offered to help. He said he'd accept that, if indeed I could help. He doesn't seem to be able to wrap his head around finding docs, researching their background on the net, and making a first appointment/interview.
So, while texting, we set a date for Sunday. After we (hopefully) have wild hot kinky monkey sex, I will sit down in front of my computer with him and make him look up drs and write a list of potentials. As for actually making the phone calls, we will see. If I have to meet him during the day during the week to punch the numbers into his phone and then hand it to him, I will. I understand how hard it is for depressed people with issues around self care, to look for help. I am really looking forward to kicking his ass to do this, if he really wants me to.
Yesterday I drove miss pixi to her therapy appointment in Boston. Lately she's been taking the train to all her appts, but I wanted to drive her this time, since my son has been here since last Wednesday and I wanted time completely alone with her.
We made it a nice date day. During her appointment I waited in the car, and made those texts and calls to Punk and Darkwing. Then she rejoined me. We drove towards home, but stopped in Framingham for a late lunch at the pub at which I'd had my first and only date with Hippie. miss pixi sometimes gets envious of my drinks/lunch/dinner dates with men, and I was happy to bring her to that pub. It was good food, and we had the cutest nicest waiter. We both got a crush on him. lol It was so peaceful in the pub, post lunch hour, and so nice to just focus on the two of us after all the socializing of the holiday. So that was very relaxing and fun.
Then we went and spent some time in TJs shopping and looking. Besides groceries, vitamins and wine, I also found boxes of fancy cookies for my 2 elderly relatives, my dad and aunt, for their Xmas gifts.
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Eeeeyeah! Quite lot. I think, for that kind of list, I'd give him another chance, too, LOL!
Can't wait to find out if he makes it/how it went today!
I did have my lunch date with Darkwing yesterday. He arrived 10 minutes late, but he did arrive!
I got into his car. I hadn't been in it before. A black SUV with a black leather interior. Darkwing was wearing a black leather jacket over his work khakis and button down shirt and dark blue sweater vest. Man, he looked fine.
I bent over and gave him a little kiss. I don't think he was expecting it. Just a peck. He asked where we should go and agreed with my suggestion, a nearby pub.
So... I have not fully processed how our talk went. I will maybe process it as I write. As we drove, I opened with, So, your life has been crazy lately, huh?
To my surprise he didn't start talking about his troubled son, but work. He works for a major corporation as a project coordinator of some sort. 4 years ago it was bought out by a French company and just recently, like in the past month or two, management procedures have changed, making the job so stressful he is considering looking for other work. Everything is taking longer to get approved, to actually get work done. He sounded really stressed and upset and frustrated.
When we got to the pub and got seated, he talked about his son. Apparently at age 14, he has dropped out of school. He just wants to stay home and play video games. I guess his mom got so frustrated, she threw in the towel and had him move in with her parents, a good distance away. This is all out in Washington state, clear across the country.
So the kid isn't going to school! Meanwhile, the mom has sole custody, and so if Darkwing wants to get the kid over to Mass and get him straightened out, they need to switch custody over to him, which is a process. So things are in a holding pattern now, but Darkwing is worried, of course.
So between those 2 things, he told me, "I haven't had any fun lately." He loves his wife, but they aren't in love. More like co-parents. They work well as a team. I don't think they have much sex, or go on dates, etc.
So. Then I reflected what I'd heard him say, expressed sympathy at the job and family worries... and began to tell him about my feelings when he said he "hasn't had any fun" lately. I said, "It's not just about you! You cancelled 3 dates on me, you don't text, told me 2 weeks ago you'd call me, and you didn't. I had no idea what was going on other than some unspecified trouble with your son."
He seemed completely taken by surprise that I was hurt at the lack of communication. I again told him, as I had in a text, that I felt like a fucktoy he'd just put up on the shelf for later, when he had more time. I also said, on the other hand, I was OK if he was too busy right now to see me. For an example, I told him about my relationship with Nick, how he has 2 families and travels for work, so we only get together on average, once a month.
I said, that would be OK in this situation too... but the difference is, Nick is an experienced poly person, he fully explained his limitations to me, so I know what I am working with and what to expect. With Darkwing, we started out seeing each other more regularly, and then... nothing for 2 months except 3 cancelled dates, no phone calls, very few brief texts.
Again, DarkWing was just taken by surprise I was hurt. He had this blank shocked look on his face that was almost amusing. Men, I swear!
I even said then, "Not to stereotype, but in general, men are not as good at communication nuances as women are." I even brought up the clusterfuck of a triad he and his wife had attempted... He knows they did that all wrong, but doesn't seem to know what is right.
I eventually surprised myself by getting a little choked up and teary. I think that got through to him. He said, he never meant to hurt me and was very sorry. He was very contrite and seemed ashamed I felt disrespected.
To show how anxious I was about all this, I wasn't hungry. And normally I love to eat, and this place has great juicy hamburgers, but I ordered lunch and had no appetite for it! Going in to this date, I didn't know if we were going to officially break up, or end up making out in his car, or something in between. Ugh. ...It ended up being somewhere in between.
He said he wanted to keep something going between us despite his life issues, and told me he would try to see me next week again. We'll see if he does manage to make the time.
Then we'd spoken of all that enough. He asked how my Thanksgiving had gone, and I told him what we did, and it came out kind of humorous, about my friend being late with the turkey because she got a crush on a woman at her disc golf course, how my ex dropped off his gigantic dog who spread out like a bearskin rug in the middle of the kitchen when we were cooking, and how there were 3 other dogs, etc. So the mood got lighter and we spent some time just chatting about general things and smiling.
Then he had to get going. I took my lunch with me. On the way home things got just a tiny bit flirty and sexual and he reiterated how he wanted to keep seeing me and would try for next week. We kissed goodbye when he dropped me at home, a slightly better kiss than our hello kiss.
I gave my lunch to miss pixi and my son to share. I still wasn't hungry and I was moody and thinky. Finally Son got ready to go, packed his car, went to start it, and... it was running all rough and weird. He called his dad, who had just had work done on it. It's the second family car. My ex said it sometimes has issues in the rain! And it was raining. So we ended up just leaving it at my curb and I drove son th 45 mins back to his town. Yay, an hour and a half drive at rush hour in the dark and rain. Oh well. I got home safely and rewarded myself with a thrift store visit and found 3 cute items. Then grocery shopped, came home, miss pixi made us a quick dinner and I finally unwound with watching some Survivor and American Horror Story.
I got into his car. I hadn't been in it before. A black SUV with a black leather interior. Darkwing was wearing a black leather jacket over his work khakis and button down shirt and dark blue sweater vest. Man, he looked fine.
I bent over and gave him a little kiss. I don't think he was expecting it. Just a peck. He asked where we should go and agreed with my suggestion, a nearby pub.
So... I have not fully processed how our talk went. I will maybe process it as I write. As we drove, I opened with, So, your life has been crazy lately, huh?
To my surprise he didn't start talking about his troubled son, but work. He works for a major corporation as a project coordinator of some sort. 4 years ago it was bought out by a French company and just recently, like in the past month or two, management procedures have changed, making the job so stressful he is considering looking for other work. Everything is taking longer to get approved, to actually get work done. He sounded really stressed and upset and frustrated.
When we got to the pub and got seated, he talked about his son. Apparently at age 14, he has dropped out of school. He just wants to stay home and play video games. I guess his mom got so frustrated, she threw in the towel and had him move in with her parents, a good distance away. This is all out in Washington state, clear across the country.
So the kid isn't going to school! Meanwhile, the mom has sole custody, and so if Darkwing wants to get the kid over to Mass and get him straightened out, they need to switch custody over to him, which is a process. So things are in a holding pattern now, but Darkwing is worried, of course.
So between those 2 things, he told me, "I haven't had any fun lately." He loves his wife, but they aren't in love. More like co-parents. They work well as a team. I don't think they have much sex, or go on dates, etc.
So. Then I reflected what I'd heard him say, expressed sympathy at the job and family worries... and began to tell him about my feelings when he said he "hasn't had any fun" lately. I said, "It's not just about you! You cancelled 3 dates on me, you don't text, told me 2 weeks ago you'd call me, and you didn't. I had no idea what was going on other than some unspecified trouble with your son."
He seemed completely taken by surprise that I was hurt at the lack of communication. I again told him, as I had in a text, that I felt like a fucktoy he'd just put up on the shelf for later, when he had more time. I also said, on the other hand, I was OK if he was too busy right now to see me. For an example, I told him about my relationship with Nick, how he has 2 families and travels for work, so we only get together on average, once a month.
I said, that would be OK in this situation too... but the difference is, Nick is an experienced poly person, he fully explained his limitations to me, so I know what I am working with and what to expect. With Darkwing, we started out seeing each other more regularly, and then... nothing for 2 months except 3 cancelled dates, no phone calls, very few brief texts.
Again, DarkWing was just taken by surprise I was hurt. He had this blank shocked look on his face that was almost amusing. Men, I swear!
I even said then, "Not to stereotype, but in general, men are not as good at communication nuances as women are." I even brought up the clusterfuck of a triad he and his wife had attempted... He knows they did that all wrong, but doesn't seem to know what is right.
I eventually surprised myself by getting a little choked up and teary. I think that got through to him. He said, he never meant to hurt me and was very sorry. He was very contrite and seemed ashamed I felt disrespected.
To show how anxious I was about all this, I wasn't hungry. And normally I love to eat, and this place has great juicy hamburgers, but I ordered lunch and had no appetite for it! Going in to this date, I didn't know if we were going to officially break up, or end up making out in his car, or something in between. Ugh. ...It ended up being somewhere in between.
He said he wanted to keep something going between us despite his life issues, and told me he would try to see me next week again. We'll see if he does manage to make the time.
Then we'd spoken of all that enough. He asked how my Thanksgiving had gone, and I told him what we did, and it came out kind of humorous, about my friend being late with the turkey because she got a crush on a woman at her disc golf course, how my ex dropped off his gigantic dog who spread out like a bearskin rug in the middle of the kitchen when we were cooking, and how there were 3 other dogs, etc. So the mood got lighter and we spent some time just chatting about general things and smiling.
Then he had to get going. I took my lunch with me. On the way home things got just a tiny bit flirty and sexual and he reiterated how he wanted to keep seeing me and would try for next week. We kissed goodbye when he dropped me at home, a slightly better kiss than our hello kiss.
I gave my lunch to miss pixi and my son to share. I still wasn't hungry and I was moody and thinky. Finally Son got ready to go, packed his car, went to start it, and... it was running all rough and weird. He called his dad, who had just had work done on it. It's the second family car. My ex said it sometimes has issues in the rain! And it was raining. So we ended up just leaving it at my curb and I drove son th 45 mins back to his town. Yay, an hour and a half drive at rush hour in the dark and rain. Oh well. I got home safely and rewarded myself with a thrift store visit and found 3 cute items. Then grocery shopped, came home, miss pixi made us a quick dinner and I finally unwound with watching some Survivor and American Horror Story.
Today I am going to see Punk. In a couple hours he will be here. He is feeling fine, so things should go well. I am looking forward to it.
Yesterday miss pixi was going to go see her Dom. She got all ready and packed, we drove to the train station for the 3:00 train. And then, despite her not having gotten a notification on her phone, the train was running a half hr late, and also, as she'd known, part of her route is being worked on and she wouldve had to have transferred to a shuttle bus for half her trip. And since her bf goes to bed pretty early, she conferred with him and he decided it wasn't worth the trip. When we got home she saw the train was a full hour behind schedule so it really would have been pointless to try and go.
I felt so bad for her! Just as bad as I'd felt for myself with all my boy troubles lately. She was very disappointed. So when we got home I took charge and gave her a kink session as similar to what her Dom does for her as I could. We'd already had sex earlier in the day, so I was feeling great after our 2nd session.
I had to go to work for the evening, and she has abandonment issues, so it was hard for her when I had to leave. I had fun at work and snuggled miss p good when I got home. She's feeling perkier today. She will see her bf next week, gods willing.
Last Thursday miss pixi and I went out to meet KC from this board. Went to a fancy venue that has bowling and other activities. We had dinner and got to meet her bf and his other gf and his roommate. It was fun! And tomorrow miss p and I are going to YouAreHere's place to have dinner with her and her bf Chops. Decembers are always so busy!
Reading Atlantis' blog, I got to thinking about something Darkwing and I had talked about. He had asked me, once I'd aired my grievances about his lack of communication, Well, what DO you want?
I told him, whatever he could offer, even only once a month if that was the best he could do. I did not however, say, that more often would be nice. I mean, Ginger used to come see me in my apartment once a week and spend the night. When I moved closer to him, he came over 3 times a week for intense sex and hanging out for a couple hours afterwards. So, that reminds me to mention that to Darkwing if and when he comes over this week. How once a month is ... OK.... but not my ideal for a partner. I don't want him to think I am so uninterested in him that once a month is the maximum I prefer, but instead, the minimum.
Yesterday miss pixi was going to go see her Dom. She got all ready and packed, we drove to the train station for the 3:00 train. And then, despite her not having gotten a notification on her phone, the train was running a half hr late, and also, as she'd known, part of her route is being worked on and she wouldve had to have transferred to a shuttle bus for half her trip. And since her bf goes to bed pretty early, she conferred with him and he decided it wasn't worth the trip. When we got home she saw the train was a full hour behind schedule so it really would have been pointless to try and go.
I felt so bad for her! Just as bad as I'd felt for myself with all my boy troubles lately. She was very disappointed. So when we got home I took charge and gave her a kink session as similar to what her Dom does for her as I could. We'd already had sex earlier in the day, so I was feeling great after our 2nd session.
I had to go to work for the evening, and she has abandonment issues, so it was hard for her when I had to leave. I had fun at work and snuggled miss p good when I got home. She's feeling perkier today. She will see her bf next week, gods willing.
Last Thursday miss pixi and I went out to meet KC from this board. Went to a fancy venue that has bowling and other activities. We had dinner and got to meet her bf and his other gf and his roommate. It was fun! And tomorrow miss p and I are going to YouAreHere's place to have dinner with her and her bf Chops. Decembers are always so busy!
Reading Atlantis' blog, I got to thinking about something Darkwing and I had talked about. He had asked me, once I'd aired my grievances about his lack of communication, Well, what DO you want?
I told him, whatever he could offer, even only once a month if that was the best he could do. I did not however, say, that more often would be nice. I mean, Ginger used to come see me in my apartment once a week and spend the night. When I moved closer to him, he came over 3 times a week for intense sex and hanging out for a couple hours afterwards. So, that reminds me to mention that to Darkwing if and when he comes over this week. How once a month is ... OK.... but not my ideal for a partner. I don't want him to think I am so uninterested in him that once a month is the maximum I prefer, but instead, the minimum.
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Yes, I heard you and the others sing, that was great.
Punk's visit was so... mmmmm. I loved it. He was in a fine mood and we got along so well. Now that we've been seeing each other a while, things are getting more and more comfortable and affectionate. He arrived at 3PM and stayed til 10. We had 2 very hot and kinky sex sessions, lots of talking and listening to music, and he happily helped me make dinner too. I love a man who likes to cook! We'd never done that together before. It was a complicated Italian recipe. He is half Sicilian and has ideas for tweaking the recipe "the next time we make it."
He is so brilliant and it is just fascinating to talk to him, hearing more about his past, and his current interests and hobbies, like doing wood inlay work. It's great getting to know him better and to feel nurtured by him. We had little affectionate kisses and cuddles and lots of laughs all throughout the evening. He is even nice to my dog. So great to have at least one of these men finally working out. I like enjoying my NRE. Every time I think about him, I smile.
That was 2 nights ago. Last night, miss pixi and I went to YouAreHere's adorable bungalow home for dinner with her and Chops! Another nice evening with 2 very interesting and cool people. Chops is an insect collector, come to find out. I got to hold one of his big tarantulas, and we learned a lot about spiders and other insects he collects, trades and sells. Weird hobby but fun to see his passion. lol
Speaking of passions, YAH served dinner in vintage Pyrex, and I found out Chops is now a Pyrex hunter, since they last visited me and saw my collection and he learned what to look for! lol
Punk's visit was so... mmmmm. I loved it. He was in a fine mood and we got along so well. Now that we've been seeing each other a while, things are getting more and more comfortable and affectionate. He arrived at 3PM and stayed til 10. We had 2 very hot and kinky sex sessions, lots of talking and listening to music, and he happily helped me make dinner too. I love a man who likes to cook! We'd never done that together before. It was a complicated Italian recipe. He is half Sicilian and has ideas for tweaking the recipe "the next time we make it."
He is so brilliant and it is just fascinating to talk to him, hearing more about his past, and his current interests and hobbies, like doing wood inlay work. It's great getting to know him better and to feel nurtured by him. We had little affectionate kisses and cuddles and lots of laughs all throughout the evening. He is even nice to my dog. So great to have at least one of these men finally working out. I like enjoying my NRE. Every time I think about him, I smile.
That was 2 nights ago. Last night, miss pixi and I went to YouAreHere's adorable bungalow home for dinner with her and Chops! Another nice evening with 2 very interesting and cool people. Chops is an insect collector, come to find out. I got to hold one of his big tarantulas, and we learned a lot about spiders and other insects he collects, trades and sells. Weird hobby but fun to see his passion. lol
Speaking of passions, YAH served dinner in vintage Pyrex, and I found out Chops is now a Pyrex hunter, since they last visited me and saw my collection and he learned what to look for! lol
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We had a great time, Mags! Always good to see you and Miss Pixi, and seeing you hold the tarantula was a high point of the evening.
You have definitely made an impact on the things we spot during our thrifting. Between the vintage Pyrex, nice pots and pans (finding a large Calphalon stainless skillet was a HUGE win), good knives (found a Henckels once at Savers for $2.99), and my interests in stained glass and poking around the old electronics, a thrift store experience usually lasts us a good long while. Treasure hunting for the win!
Glad things are working out fabulously with Punk!
You have definitely made an impact on the things we spot during our thrifting. Between the vintage Pyrex, nice pots and pans (finding a large Calphalon stainless skillet was a HUGE win), good knives (found a Henckels once at Savers for $2.99), and my interests in stained glass and poking around the old electronics, a thrift store experience usually lasts us a good long while. Treasure hunting for the win!
Glad things are working out fabulously with Punk!
Thanks, YAH. Hugs!
I texted with Punk a while yesterday, and we both affirmed what a great time we'd had on our Sunday date. I asked when he could come visit again and he said Saturday, so we are on for 5ish.
I have been chatting for a few weeks, on OKC, with a 77 year old married man who lives in Maine 3 seasons, but winters in Western Mass. He has been very interested in me, and we've been writing PMs back and forth. We exchanged phone numbers and he wants to meet me this Saturday for lunch in my town.
He seems very cool, an old hippie, still fit and youthful, according to him. I am somewhat skeptical, especially in the sexual realm, but I am willing to meet him for lunch. We'll see how it goes. He is fairly new to polyamory, but he and his wife have done some swinging, mostly in a quad type situation, for a year or two, I think.
Miss pixi has plans to go to her bf's on Saturday too. It's going to be a busy day! (If no plans fall through, which, you never know.)
I texted with Punk a while yesterday, and we both affirmed what a great time we'd had on our Sunday date. I asked when he could come visit again and he said Saturday, so we are on for 5ish.
I have been chatting for a few weeks, on OKC, with a 77 year old married man who lives in Maine 3 seasons, but winters in Western Mass. He has been very interested in me, and we've been writing PMs back and forth. We exchanged phone numbers and he wants to meet me this Saturday for lunch in my town.
He seems very cool, an old hippie, still fit and youthful, according to him. I am somewhat skeptical, especially in the sexual realm, but I am willing to meet him for lunch. We'll see how it goes. He is fairly new to polyamory, but he and his wife have done some swinging, mostly in a quad type situation, for a year or two, I think.
Miss pixi has plans to go to her bf's on Saturday too. It's going to be a busy day! (If no plans fall through, which, you never know.)
I don't know how I messed up the dates, but turns out Mr Maine came to my town today! I just happened to check my phone late this morning, and saw that he'd arrived at the restaurant on time, at 11:30, called me then, and now it was 11:47! Luckily I was able to call him back and tell him I'd be right over. The pub is only 5 minutes from my house, and I had nothing going on at home but chores and Yule decorating today.
I felt rushed but I did it. We had lunch and a nice talk. He seems cool. But gosh, 77. He was born in 1938! I can't even...
I liked him though. We are definitely a match intellectually, politically and so on. Turns out he and his wife swung on and off for 10 years, but it sounds like it was low key wife swapping or pre-arranged meetings, not parties where you go in and fuck the nearest available stranger.
We didn't try out our sexual chemistry. He gave me a kiss at my car, but it was awkward because we were right in front of a big window to the bar and I didn't want to put on a show for the drinkers in there lol
He's a small man, about my height and thinnish. I fear between that and his age, I will break him like a dry twig if we have sex. But we will see. He asked me to meet him again in January.
Funny thing, since he's not been officially poly, he asked me what my ideal situation is. Had to say, I don't have one! I tend to just take each relationship as it comes, according to what each partner has to offer.
This evening Punk texted me, which was nice, since he usually doesn't take the initiative. He wanted to firm up plans and activities for tomorrow.
Darkwing didn't message me all week, as I had semi-predicted. Glad to know we seem to be over, due to his life issues and poor communication. It's OK. Good to just have it over with. I felt so much less stress yesterday. I was in the best mood I've been in, in ages, just feeling somewhat secure with Punk, getting along great with miss pixi, looking forward to the holidays. Whew!
I felt rushed but I did it. We had lunch and a nice talk. He seems cool. But gosh, 77. He was born in 1938! I can't even...
I liked him though. We are definitely a match intellectually, politically and so on. Turns out he and his wife swung on and off for 10 years, but it sounds like it was low key wife swapping or pre-arranged meetings, not parties where you go in and fuck the nearest available stranger.
We didn't try out our sexual chemistry. He gave me a kiss at my car, but it was awkward because we were right in front of a big window to the bar and I didn't want to put on a show for the drinkers in there lol
He's a small man, about my height and thinnish. I fear between that and his age, I will break him like a dry twig if we have sex.
But we will see. He asked me to meet him again in January.Funny thing, since he's not been officially poly, he asked me what my ideal situation is. Had to say, I don't have one! I tend to just take each relationship as it comes, according to what each partner has to offer.
This evening Punk texted me, which was nice, since he usually doesn't take the initiative. He wanted to firm up plans and activities for tomorrow.
Darkwing didn't message me all week, as I had semi-predicted. Glad to know we seem to be over, due to his life issues and poor communication. It's OK. Good to just have it over with. I felt so much less stress yesterday. I was in the best mood I've been in, in ages, just feeling somewhat secure with Punk, getting along great with miss pixi, looking forward to the holidays. Whew!
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IndieSolo
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At least Mr. Maine sounds like a cool guy. Must still have a libido if he's pursuing dating.
I was messaged by two guys on OKC today, and they both seemed appealing! What a surprise to find something other than the usual dreck. I might write back to both. One of them doesn't have any pictures, but mine are fuzzy and unclear, so I shouldn't throw stones. I just don't like the idea of potentially giving someone my email address to see pics.
I was messaged by two guys on OKC today, and they both seemed appealing! What a surprise to find something other than the usual dreck. I might write back to both. One of them doesn't have any pictures, but mine are fuzzy and unclear, so I shouldn't throw stones. I just don't like the idea of potentially giving someone my email address to see pics.
PinkPig
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Sounds like a nice date. Sorry about Darkwing, though.
Just set up a separate Gmail account for sharing pics, etc with online people.
Just set up a separate Gmail account for sharing pics, etc with online people.
IndieSolo
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Yeah, I know - I'm a doofus, really. I thought of that as I was writing my last post. D'oh! I already have several email accounts, but still I feel like it's private info I don't like giving away too soon. Silly me.
vinsanity0
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That's the way I do it too. Do you ever get a negative reaction to that? As if you don't know what you want, like it's a bad thing? I do and I wonder if it's because I'm a guy and we are supposed to have a plan or something.
Other side of the side of the fence. I like to hear what a possible plan is, it acts as a starting point.
There is also a degree of "you go first," in it for me. "What do YOU want?" I think it is also "What can you realistically offer?" as in time, effort, etc.
But no sex with people I feel I might break.
There is also a degree of "you go first," in it for me. "What do YOU want?" I think it is also "What can you realistically offer?" as in time, effort, etc.
But no sex with people I feel I might break.
Yeah, all I want is a partner who is kind, attractive, passionately sexual with good stamina, intelligent, funny, respectful, reasonably sane (a lot to ask apparently
), and a good communicator. High standards? Yes.But I don't expect to have an ideal situation. And I am willing to be patient to find something at least workable.
I prefer local people, because it's easier to get together. I guess I had an almost ideal situation with Ginger (until it fell apart), since he chatted to me online often, was able to get together 3x a week, was fun to have sex with, talk to, and do activities with, as well. He had retired early though. I know not everyone has enough time or freedom to hang out 3 days a week.
But I like sex more than once a week. I do know ideally I'd like sex every day. But I don't expect an ideal situation! miss pixi meets a lot of my sexual needs, but not all of them. She's my ideal partner in that we are madly in love, we hardly ever fight. After our 2nd year together, I'd say we never fight, rarely have a heated discussion, we just don't disagree on much. Our rhythms, interests and desires match up almost perfectly. She has even learned to get me off on days when she isn't in the mood, like a good subby girl.
But no sex with people I feel I might break.
haha yeah. We will have to see what happens there.
Wearing someone out is good. Breaking them, not so good. Speaking of getting worn out, Punk and I had a nice 5 hour date last night. 2 vigorous sex sessions about wore us out! He brought toys too... We played with a couple of them.
We also did a project together, made dinner and ate, took the dog for a walk. I love that we are becoming a regular once a week thing.
IndieSolo
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Oh, I wanna break 'em!
Sounds like good stuff going on there - glad to read it!Speaking of getting worn out, Punk and I had a nice 5 hour date last night. 2 vigorous sex sessions about wore us out! He brought toys too... We played with a couple of them.
I love that we are becoming a regular once a week thing.