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[Ashe]

Hi I'm Ashe,

I signed up for this site with my boyfriend of 2.5 years, Tryndemere. We are currently monogamous, and plan to stay that way emotionally. I am cisgender female and he recently came out as bi to me so we are open to some sort of MMF relationship of some kind but do not know where or how to start, so here we are checking things out.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Ashe and Tryndemere,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you are ready to branch out sexually, I don't know if you've tried OKCupid but that might be a good place to start. Have a look around on our forum, and let us know if you have any questions!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[Magdlyn]

Hi I'm Ashe,

I signed up for this site with my boyfriend of 2.5 years, Tryndemere. We are currently monogamous, and plan to stay that way emotionally. I am a cisgender female, and he recently came out as bi to me, so we are open to some sort of MMF relationship, but do not know where or how to start, so here we are checking things out.

Hi Ashe, welcome.

Planning to stay emotionally mono may or may not work. If Tryndemere starts having sex with other men (with your consent), there is a chance that fond feelings could develop with anyone he feels attracted to enough to have sex with.

Many bisexual people do live happily in monogamous relationships. Just because you are attracted to this or that gender does not mean you have to act on your feelings.

So, maybe live with the knowledge of his bisexuality a while before he acts on them. Maybe it would be enough, for now, to discuss whom he finds attractive. Maybe incorporate fantasies about that into your shared sex life. Fantasies and actual real life actions have little in common.

It wouldn't be fair to his prospective partners to be rash and act too soon, without getting an idea of the consequences of Opening your relationship.

Besides reading here, I recommend you both read the excellent book "Opening Up."

Oh, and if Tryn does start dating, there is no reason you need to consider yourself in a real "relationship" with that guy, or guys. Those fellas will be your metamours, not your lovers or bfs. You may or may not want to meet any of them. If you do meet any, you may or may not like them.