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GreatView

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Hey there!

Just spent about 20 minutes reading the glossary section - always good to get a taste for the language before one embarks on attempting to communicate.

I'm a 52-yr-old guy in a very satisfying and deep relationship with a wonderful woman. When we got together 3 years ago, we discussed our mutual tendency to non-monogamy, and discussed many MANY aspects of our feelings and opinions about the issue. We've been honest and respectful in all of our communication.

She has recently begun the first romantic relationship outside of ours and despite what I thought was a grasp of my own stuff, there are a small handful of things that are really taking me by surprise due to their emotional power.

It's nothing that feels like a relationship deal-breaker, but ~whew~ it's potent stuff and deserves some attention.

Having done lots of reading about the subject over the past 3 years, discussing it between the two of us, and with my own mental health professional from time to time, I thought I would join a community to learn how others have managed and reach out for support from those with a bit more life experience in this category than I have.

Anywho - I look forward to gaining something positive from the wisdom of the group, and perhaps some day, give back as well.
 
Welcome, Greatview,

I have only been here a few weeks myself, but can say that I've received a lot of good advice already - both from direct replies to my posts and just by reading through similar situations in the forums.

As you have specific issues to post about, I suggest the "Poly Relationships Corner" section as it stays quite active.

My story has some similarity to yours in that my wife has a new boyfriend (actually an old college flame reignited - our first poly experience) - while I am waiting to see how it all plays out before considering an additional relationship for myself.

Best,

Al
 
Greetings GreatView,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

We'll be glad to discuss whatever topics you're concerned/wondering about. Al99 is right, the Poly Relationships Corner is probably the best place for you to post. Although if you have anything you want to post in this thread, that's okay too. I'll be following it.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
thank you for the warm welcome ... as a new member I expect to be the one asking for help, advice, wisdom more often than contributing - but you never know, I'm fairly new to alternative relationship structures, but not new to life ;)
 
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