DeadAccount
New member
[CN emotional and sexual abuse]
Hello everyone!
New to the forum, not new to polyamory but sort of feel like I am.
I've been practicing ethical ("air quotes") non-monogamy since I first fell in love with a man and a woman at the same time when I was 18. I'm now 26 and I have never been in a purely monogamous relationship. Perhaps it's the slut in me, but the idea of only having sex with one person for the rest of my life terrifies the shit out of me, even if the person (and the sex) is spectacular. That said, I do very closely pair bond in relationships.
I'm a survivor - one long-term partner who sexually abused me (amongst other things,) and another who emotionally abused me to a quite spectacular degree, including setting up a situation wherein they were free to do whatever, whenver and with whomever they wanted, but I had to be exclusive to them. I left this situation just under two years ago and am now living with my absolutely amazing Primary partner and we have been slowly expanding the boundaries towards opening up our relationship. I'm currently dating 3 others and um-friends with one other, while my Partner is exploring a couple of interesting connections in their early stages.
So herein is the 'not new to poly but feel like I am' - I have been doing it for years but this relationship really feels like the first time it's been viable, functional and totally egalitarian. We've often said we're learning it from the ground up all over again and that's why I'm here.
I look forward to chatting with lots of you.
Cast of characters:
CK/Days of Inspiration - yours truly
DB - my wonderful Primary/nesting partner
FondleBeast - long-distance sweetie
Twister Girl - long-distance sweetie and FB's ^ primary partner
Evil Genius - long-distance FWB
The Artist - new local sweetie
The Wanderer - incredible metamour
Maybe more to be added...
Hello everyone!
New to the forum, not new to polyamory but sort of feel like I am.
I've been practicing ethical ("air quotes") non-monogamy since I first fell in love with a man and a woman at the same time when I was 18. I'm now 26 and I have never been in a purely monogamous relationship. Perhaps it's the slut in me, but the idea of only having sex with one person for the rest of my life terrifies the shit out of me, even if the person (and the sex) is spectacular. That said, I do very closely pair bond in relationships.
I'm a survivor - one long-term partner who sexually abused me (amongst other things,) and another who emotionally abused me to a quite spectacular degree, including setting up a situation wherein they were free to do whatever, whenver and with whomever they wanted, but I had to be exclusive to them. I left this situation just under two years ago and am now living with my absolutely amazing Primary partner and we have been slowly expanding the boundaries towards opening up our relationship. I'm currently dating 3 others and um-friends with one other, while my Partner is exploring a couple of interesting connections in their early stages.
So herein is the 'not new to poly but feel like I am' - I have been doing it for years but this relationship really feels like the first time it's been viable, functional and totally egalitarian. We've often said we're learning it from the ground up all over again and that's why I'm here.
I look forward to chatting with lots of you.
Cast of characters:
CK/Days of Inspiration - yours truly
DB - my wonderful Primary/nesting partner
FondleBeast - long-distance sweetie
Twister Girl - long-distance sweetie and FB's ^ primary partner
Evil Genius - long-distance FWB
The Artist - new local sweetie
The Wanderer - incredible metamour
Maybe more to be added...
