I probably need lots of advice.
First off, I am in an open relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for about 8 years now. I love him and know that we will be together FOREVERRRR~ (I had to say that really dramatically.) Anyway, I knew I was poly for a few years now, maybe subconsciously longer. We are finally in a state where both of us is comfortable with the other dating someone else. At first it was restrictive, I can understand this. I was okay with this. I haven't, and really never have been actively looking for another partner. To make note he has been dating another woman for a little over a year now. I am so happy for them! They are quite adorable together.
I however have dated a few other people. None of them really lasted. Now I have an old crush in the picture. I finally after nearly 8 years, told this person I have a crush on them. I had already come out openly to my friends that I am poly. He seemed to be very receptive of this. He doesn't normally get involved with women, so I was really prepared for him not to be interested at all. That was not the case though, for about a week or so we heavily flirted. Now though, I have not heard from him for a good 5 days. Just the occasional hello.
Naturally I am a pretty nervous person. I don't think I have been this nervous and excited in such a very long time. However, I am not sure how to approach him. I won't ask him out, or pursue him. I want him to figure out if he is excited and wants the relationship. It's important for him to feel comfortable and want to invest time in 'us'. I did the hard part already and let him know I like him. But gosh darnit, is this not harder!? I am not sure what to do. Try to talk to him or just let him come around to talk to me? I feel like a high schooler waiting around by the phone for her crush to call!
Anyway, thanks for reading and thanks in advance for your advice. Hopefully I worded everything properly!
Oh, almost forgot to note. Without getting into details he has 2-ish primaries and a few secondary partners. What he does elsewhere no idea. So, he isn't exactly new to it all. (Thought I should probably mention that.)
First off, I am in an open relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for about 8 years now. I love him and know that we will be together FOREVERRRR~ (I had to say that really dramatically.) Anyway, I knew I was poly for a few years now, maybe subconsciously longer. We are finally in a state where both of us is comfortable with the other dating someone else. At first it was restrictive, I can understand this. I was okay with this. I haven't, and really never have been actively looking for another partner. To make note he has been dating another woman for a little over a year now. I am so happy for them! They are quite adorable together.
I however have dated a few other people. None of them really lasted. Now I have an old crush in the picture. I finally after nearly 8 years, told this person I have a crush on them. I had already come out openly to my friends that I am poly. He seemed to be very receptive of this. He doesn't normally get involved with women, so I was really prepared for him not to be interested at all. That was not the case though, for about a week or so we heavily flirted. Now though, I have not heard from him for a good 5 days. Just the occasional hello.
Naturally I am a pretty nervous person. I don't think I have been this nervous and excited in such a very long time. However, I am not sure how to approach him. I won't ask him out, or pursue him. I want him to figure out if he is excited and wants the relationship. It's important for him to feel comfortable and want to invest time in 'us'. I did the hard part already and let him know I like him. But gosh darnit, is this not harder!? I am not sure what to do. Try to talk to him or just let him come around to talk to me? I feel like a high schooler waiting around by the phone for her crush to call!
Anyway, thanks for reading and thanks in advance for your advice. Hopefully I worded everything properly!
Oh, almost forgot to note. Without getting into details he has 2-ish primaries and a few secondary partners. What he does elsewhere no idea. So, he isn't exactly new to it all. (Thought I should probably mention that.)
