Lots of people don't do AP class. It isn't like people interviewing you for a job after HS go "Ok, now show me your report card so I can count your AP classes."
Then she doesn't win this one. There will be other fencing bouts.
You cannot change her thinking patterns or her distorted thinking for her. I think it is better for professionals to help her with that IF she wants and seeks out their help.
She has to seek help herself, and then do the work if she wants to change. If she doesn't want to change, and does not prioritize her healthcare? You cannot make her "see the light" or make her create a healthcare plan if she doesn't want to make one right now.
I can imagine it is very frustrating for you.
Does it bother her that she has no plan? Then she could make one.
If it bothers YOU that she has no plan? Because she complains to you and you are tired of listening to complaints? You could exercise some personal boundaries around that.
Could tell her you can only listen so much, and then she has to unload the rest with someone else.
It is not your job to be her "life raft" person.
I don't know if any of this would help you exercise good personal boundaries. It's meant for people with PD, but I find it a good tool for dealing with my Alzheimer dad. I don't know what her actual dx might be, but maybe it helps you maintain your balance and not get too sucked into her stuff.
https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1
It's ok to care about her. It is ok to be supportive and avoid enabling.
It is not ok to take responsibilities that do not belong to you and are not yours to take. Maintain your boundaries.
Galagirl
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