SelinaKelly
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Greetings to you
32, Canadian, pansexual, polyamorous.
I am in the process of ending my 2nd long-term monogamous relationship after discovering that I do not feel the same level of attraction for them as well as have a different opinion on relationships.
I fell in love with an incredibly good friend a number of years ago but it was not good timing for either of us, and my confidence in my sexuality had not yet been very clear to me. I've since learned that they too, now share similar views and thoughts on love which has brought me to a point where I want to embrace my poly self, say, "fuck it" to the idea of possibly being lonely for the rest of my life and not hold myself back anymore. My good friend is now my best friend today. We've recently discovered that we have an attraction towards each other that she is "not allowed" to venture into. I am respecting her choice to try a monogamous relationship and we are working together on how to remain best friends and respect the boundaries of her relationship
I've had feelings for others, on different levels of intensity and out of fear I have not been completely vocal with the ones I've cared for in the past and instead followed the core ideals, remaining faithful, never opening up to others while I am in the restraints of monogamy. I can't tell you how many times I've been with people I love and trust, the people that I would do anything for; wanted to just kiss them, passionately, not because I'm trying to claim them or hurt anyone or leave my partner... just to express how I feel for them in a different way than words. I don't of course, because of rules and fear of damaging my relationships.
I've had one experience with a poly relationship before, which unfortunately ends on quite a sad note. He was my roommate and absolute best friend. We grew an attraction to each other, but eventually decided that the attraction we shared was something outside of just sex, and outside of what either of us recognized as a "relationship". Every kiss seemed to express so perfectly how great of friends we were, thick as thieves and ready to experience life independent from each other. We eventually agreed that if and when we met another person who we had a different kind of attraction for, that we would be honest with each other and our prospective mates. The sad note I mentioned above - unfortunately my best friend and lover passed away of cancer.
I didn't intend to write this much in my summary!
32, Canadian, pansexual, polyamorous.
I am in the process of ending my 2nd long-term monogamous relationship after discovering that I do not feel the same level of attraction for them as well as have a different opinion on relationships.
I fell in love with an incredibly good friend a number of years ago but it was not good timing for either of us, and my confidence in my sexuality had not yet been very clear to me. I've since learned that they too, now share similar views and thoughts on love which has brought me to a point where I want to embrace my poly self, say, "fuck it" to the idea of possibly being lonely for the rest of my life and not hold myself back anymore. My good friend is now my best friend today. We've recently discovered that we have an attraction towards each other that she is "not allowed" to venture into. I am respecting her choice to try a monogamous relationship and we are working together on how to remain best friends and respect the boundaries of her relationship
I've had feelings for others, on different levels of intensity and out of fear I have not been completely vocal with the ones I've cared for in the past and instead followed the core ideals, remaining faithful, never opening up to others while I am in the restraints of monogamy. I can't tell you how many times I've been with people I love and trust, the people that I would do anything for; wanted to just kiss them, passionately, not because I'm trying to claim them or hurt anyone or leave my partner... just to express how I feel for them in a different way than words. I don't of course, because of rules and fear of damaging my relationships.
I've had one experience with a poly relationship before, which unfortunately ends on quite a sad note. He was my roommate and absolute best friend. We grew an attraction to each other, but eventually decided that the attraction we shared was something outside of just sex, and outside of what either of us recognized as a "relationship". Every kiss seemed to express so perfectly how great of friends we were, thick as thieves and ready to experience life independent from each other. We eventually agreed that if and when we met another person who we had a different kind of attraction for, that we would be honest with each other and our prospective mates. The sad note I mentioned above - unfortunately my best friend and lover passed away of cancer.
I didn't intend to write this much in my summary!
