My husband and I have been together for 17 years. We were high school sweethearts. Over the last few years we have drifted apart, hateful things have been said and regretted. We only recently, over the last year have begun to reconnect. What got us on this past was a very special friend. She befriended my husband first, but not long after she befriended me. For the first 7 months it was solely a friendship, than last May my husband told me he was in love with her. At first I felt betrayed, that I couldn't forgive either of them. Over a few days my husband convinced me that even though he was in love with her he couldn't live without me, that he was still madly in love with me as well. I decided to have a one on one talk with, let's call her redgem. For she is our redgem. She confessed to me that she was in love with my husband, but refused to move onto any type of relationship with him, she told me it killed her to even think of hurting me. I had a decision to make. Now from the time I was about 17 I had bisexual tendencies but had been to afraid to act on them. I knew I felt something for this girl but hadn't put words to it. I decided to invite her into my marriage on a temporary basis, to see if it worked for all of us. The first night we were together was magic. I had no idea how much more I could feel and experience when it came to making love. She has been with us now for 8 months, we have had our ups and downs, jealousy and stuff, but we communicate about everything. Even if I can't talk to my husband I know I can talk to redgem. And she feels the same as me. We all love each other and couldn't imagine life differently. People that we have told about our relationship just look down on us and judge. Even though they say they aren't. It hurts all of us because we just want to be together and be happy. Why do others have to view it so wrong? We aren't hurting anyone. We plan on having a long future together, we have even discussed the three of us bringing a baby into this world. I just wanted to share my story, thank you for reading, any feedback is encouraged.
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Greetings rene1224,
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Seems like you have a good relationship going with redgem, I'm sorry people are giving you a bad time about it, but sometimes that's how people act when they're faced with something new and different that they don't understand. People like things to be familiar and predictable; if they're not, sometimes they feel threatened.
I would just keep doing things the way you're doing them. Study up on our various threads and boards to learn more about how to live together happily as a triad, but basically it seems to me like you're already doing it right.
Sincerely,
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Welcome aboard!
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
Seems like you have a good relationship going with redgem, I'm sorry people are giving you a bad time about it, but sometimes that's how people act when they're faced with something new and different that they don't understand. People like things to be familiar and predictable; if they're not, sometimes they feel threatened.
I would just keep doing things the way you're doing them. Study up on our various threads and boards to learn more about how to live together happily as a triad, but basically it seems to me like you're already doing it right.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
Notes:
There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!
Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.
Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.
If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.
Welcome aboard!
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MsJulles
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Wonderful rene1224 that the three of you have developed into a loving triad! I know how you feel because we've had a few folks show disdain for our relationship. Society is a long way towards accepting poly relationships as legitimate but all we can do is love our partners and keep on moving! We plan to raise kids ourselves with my wife and I having children by our man. If people don't like it too bad