Poly and proud

[Phoenixbarrett]

Hi y'all.
My name is Virginia and I am poly and proud! I have never been able to maintain a monogomous relationship longer than 6 months. My eyes would stray, but I would dutifully stick to my commitment. Most of the time, my partners (male and female) noticed and jealousy would arise. Followed quickly by accusations of me sleeping around, which I would never do. And finally the relationship crumbles into mush. I did find my soulmate and married him, 5 years ago next month. We have had our share of troubles. He appreciates that I can admire the female body as much (sometimes more) than he does. He has even gone so far as to help me find the occasional woman for a night or 2. He is very understanding and I recently brought up the idea of fullfilling my desires and his own by opening our family for a third.
We decided this was a good choice and are looking for someone now. I am happy to say that I have wanted this for myself for a very long time, I just never admitted it to anyone. I am a little unsure where to go from here. There was only one time in my life that I attempted to do this and I was the third brought in and my girlfriend's husband became very jealous of me, and my girlfriend became jealous of how her kids bonded to me. I am hoping to make friends and find someone to help ease the path to happiness.
Virginia

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Virginia,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I think one thing to keep in mind here is that everyone is responsible for their own actions; indeed, no one can choose anyone's actions except their own. So if someone should start acting out due to irrational jealousy, that's their own issue, and their own responsibility. I say that because you mentioned the husband's jealousy being the problem in the prior MFF triad you were in.

It's good to read lots of our threads on this site, and to post your thoughts, questions, and concerns as they arise. Polyamory can be complex and it's wise to prepare yourself as much as possible.

If you're looking for ways to find the "woman of your dreams," I have various links and suggestions I can post for you, so let me know if that's something you're interested in at this time.

I'm glad you could join us, and hope you enjoy your stay.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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