DemetreeDot1030
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Jello Everyone,
We're a couple(both of us are 30) from about 45 minutes south of Pittsburgh. We have 2 boys (a 7 month old & a 3 year old) ,and we are Wiccan. I am straight ,and my wife is bi. We have been married for 4 years ,and together for 5 years.
I work as a merchandiser for a 3rd party company that represents one of the largest consumer electronics manufactures. I'm also a musician (play guitar/bass/vocals) in which i am trying to work on my own album doing everything myself (programming drums). My wife is a stay at home mom ,and she is also into crafts/art. She sews, makes candles, paints ,and some other stuff. She's looking into starting her craft business in the near future. We have also taken up an interest in horse back riding which we have been taking lessons for about 2 months now.
We began our polyamorous journey about 2 years ago. It all started when i was picking up on the references my wife was making that she was bi although she wouldn't tell me she kept denying it. One day i told her most of every woman i've ever been with was bi ,and i'm okay with it as i don't see another woman as a threat to our relationship. At that point she told me about a girl she dated years ago ,and other interests in women she had. We then began to talk about the possibility of bringing another woman into our relationship. I told my wife that this was fine with me because i wanted her to be herself ,and not to try to fit into a box because of what someone would call "normal".
Fast forward about 9 months ago ,and we had our second son in which afterwards my wife started searching around on OKCupid (the site we met on) as well as other such sites for a girlfriend, couple ,and such. At this point we thought we were looking into maybe the swinger route. Then my wife told me that she wasn't just interested in finding another woman for just sex ,but a companionship. It wasn't until one of our first potential finds told us she was poly that we realized that was what we were looking into.
Over the course a few months my wife went on a few dates with a few other women until she came across a 40 year old woman. The woman she (we) dated didn't really claim herself to be gay ,or bi although she said she prefered women ,but would be interested in maybe pursuing something with me as well.
As the relationship went on me & our girlfriend got closer ,and more open with each other (emotionally/sexually). My wife came to me about a concern that she felt our girlfriend was coming around mainly for sex ,and nothing else as everytime the 2 of them ,or all 3 of us tried to go out somewhere she'd cancel ,or would want to come back to the house right away.
We tried to discuss this with her as we believe communication is a major part of this kind of relationship. Although as soon as we tried to express our concerns she basically threw her hands up ,and gave up.
So for us whoever is our next girlfriend has to be equally into both of us ,and willing to communicate as well as learn things about/from each other.
Like I stated earlier we've spent alot of time searching on sites like OKCupid ,but we keep coming up dry. We don't believe into paying into a site just to find someone so i'm hoping maybe getting involved with a polyamorous community site may allow us to find someone ,or find a way to go the right direction with this.
Sorry for this being long winded ,but i wanted to set the basis for what we are doing.
We're a couple(both of us are 30) from about 45 minutes south of Pittsburgh. We have 2 boys (a 7 month old & a 3 year old) ,and we are Wiccan. I am straight ,and my wife is bi. We have been married for 4 years ,and together for 5 years.
I work as a merchandiser for a 3rd party company that represents one of the largest consumer electronics manufactures. I'm also a musician (play guitar/bass/vocals) in which i am trying to work on my own album doing everything myself (programming drums). My wife is a stay at home mom ,and she is also into crafts/art. She sews, makes candles, paints ,and some other stuff. She's looking into starting her craft business in the near future. We have also taken up an interest in horse back riding which we have been taking lessons for about 2 months now.
We began our polyamorous journey about 2 years ago. It all started when i was picking up on the references my wife was making that she was bi although she wouldn't tell me she kept denying it. One day i told her most of every woman i've ever been with was bi ,and i'm okay with it as i don't see another woman as a threat to our relationship. At that point she told me about a girl she dated years ago ,and other interests in women she had. We then began to talk about the possibility of bringing another woman into our relationship. I told my wife that this was fine with me because i wanted her to be herself ,and not to try to fit into a box because of what someone would call "normal".
Fast forward about 9 months ago ,and we had our second son in which afterwards my wife started searching around on OKCupid (the site we met on) as well as other such sites for a girlfriend, couple ,and such. At this point we thought we were looking into maybe the swinger route. Then my wife told me that she wasn't just interested in finding another woman for just sex ,but a companionship. It wasn't until one of our first potential finds told us she was poly that we realized that was what we were looking into.
Over the course a few months my wife went on a few dates with a few other women until she came across a 40 year old woman. The woman she (we) dated didn't really claim herself to be gay ,or bi although she said she prefered women ,but would be interested in maybe pursuing something with me as well.
As the relationship went on me & our girlfriend got closer ,and more open with each other (emotionally/sexually). My wife came to me about a concern that she felt our girlfriend was coming around mainly for sex ,and nothing else as everytime the 2 of them ,or all 3 of us tried to go out somewhere she'd cancel ,or would want to come back to the house right away.
We tried to discuss this with her as we believe communication is a major part of this kind of relationship. Although as soon as we tried to express our concerns she basically threw her hands up ,and gave up.
So for us whoever is our next girlfriend has to be equally into both of us ,and willing to communicate as well as learn things about/from each other.
Like I stated earlier we've spent alot of time searching on sites like OKCupid ,but we keep coming up dry. We don't believe into paying into a site just to find someone so i'm hoping maybe getting involved with a polyamorous community site may allow us to find someone ,or find a way to go the right direction with this.
Sorry for this being long winded ,but i wanted to set the basis for what we are doing.
