SpringtimeMama
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Hi folks!
I've been reading the forums for about a week but thought I'd finally register so at least the search would work for me.
I'm not new to the concept of polyamory (lots of people talked about it when I was in college, and I did spend one summer reading every novel Heinlein ever published), but I'm very very new to the experience. I've been with D for 16 years, married for 12. My relationship with K, on the other hand, only got serious last week. At which point, frustrated librarian that I am, I hit the internet for every drop of information and advice that I could find.
Here's our story. This summer K became interested in D and hit on him pretty intensely. After saying "no" he soon switched to "Ask my wife". I don't think he ever expected his wife to say "yes"!
After several months of getting to know each other and thinking that it would never go anywhere, one night last week we were startled to find ourselves in bed together. It all felt so normal and natural.
As time has passed (and yes, I realize it's hardly any time at all) we've shaken out into something between a V and a triad. K and I both identify as straight women, but I'm a little more bicurious than she is, so we are sexually active together but with limits. D and K have much higher libidos than I do, so they are together much more than with me, which suits me just fine. I'm a stay at home mom with a toddler and a second child on the way. I'm tired, even when the second trimester hormones have doubled my interest.
I don't know where this relationship is going. Poly is new to all three of us. And of course our family is going to go through major changes in March when this baby (2nd child) is born. By nature I look for something stable and secure, so I find myself dreaming of the future. On the other hand, K is quite a bit younger than me, so I suspect that she will eventually move on to someone else. I hope that we will have given her a good experience of a healthy relationship (she's dated some doozies in the past).
K would like be open about our relationship, which scares D right now (What will people think?). She and I have agreed to wait a few months until we know if our relationship is going anywhere. No sense in going through a whole bunch of unnecessary anguish.
Thank you for all the good ideas and advice I've gleaned by reading these forums!
I've been reading the forums for about a week but thought I'd finally register so at least the search would work for me.
I'm not new to the concept of polyamory (lots of people talked about it when I was in college, and I did spend one summer reading every novel Heinlein ever published), but I'm very very new to the experience. I've been with D for 16 years, married for 12. My relationship with K, on the other hand, only got serious last week. At which point, frustrated librarian that I am, I hit the internet for every drop of information and advice that I could find.
Here's our story. This summer K became interested in D and hit on him pretty intensely. After saying "no" he soon switched to "Ask my wife". I don't think he ever expected his wife to say "yes"!
After several months of getting to know each other and thinking that it would never go anywhere, one night last week we were startled to find ourselves in bed together. It all felt so normal and natural. As time has passed (and yes, I realize it's hardly any time at all) we've shaken out into something between a V and a triad. K and I both identify as straight women, but I'm a little more bicurious than she is, so we are sexually active together but with limits. D and K have much higher libidos than I do, so they are together much more than with me, which suits me just fine. I'm a stay at home mom with a toddler and a second child on the way. I'm tired, even when the second trimester hormones have doubled my interest.
I don't know where this relationship is going. Poly is new to all three of us. And of course our family is going to go through major changes in March when this baby (2nd child) is born. By nature I look for something stable and secure, so I find myself dreaming of the future. On the other hand, K is quite a bit younger than me, so I suspect that she will eventually move on to someone else. I hope that we will have given her a good experience of a healthy relationship (she's dated some doozies in the past).
K would like be open about our relationship, which scares D right now (What will people think?). She and I have agreed to wait a few months until we know if our relationship is going anywhere. No sense in going through a whole bunch of unnecessary anguish.
Thank you for all the good ideas and advice I've gleaned by reading these forums!
