I don't think KTP is a need for control, in all cases. Sometimes it's just that I enjoy being able to spend time with multiple partners at once, or not feeling like anyone has to choose between time spent with each partner ALL the time. (Obviously everyone needs alone time, but if people get along, it's a lot easier to feel like you have more time with people if they don't mind being around each other.)
I don't think KTP is a need for control, in all cases. Sometimes it's just that I enjoy being able to spend time with multiple partners at once, or not feeling like anyone has to choose between time spent with each partner ALL the time. (Obviously everyone needs alone time, but if people get along, it's a lot easier to feel like you have more time with people if they don't mind being around each other.)
Of course! Pixi and I quite enjoy KTP. But eventually we ended up stopping trying to do it here, because my bfs had a habit of seeing 2 bisexual women living together and thinking, "Maybe I can get in this sandwich." Certainly not all of them thought that, actually only a handful, but that was enough to make us decide to have her vacate the premises when I had someone over.
Pixi's bf is very introverted and it took him a long time to warm up to having her visit more than once a week. Now she is welcome at his house literally any time, but that took years. I've only hung out with him a handful of times. Pixi would love to live with both of us. She finds it very gut wrenching to leave me to go be with him. But she's his sub and she never pushes more contact. I did get invited to his place for dinner once this summer, but that was more because we are all on the same quaranteam, and he doesn't see anyone besides his family now (and that, rarely). I would love to be invited over to, say, trim the Xmas tree, or even just watch TV, but it just never seems to happen.
He's a great guy (obviously, or Pixi wouldn't have been with him for so long), but he works really hard, and in his down time he just wants to relax with Pixi and not have even more social stimulation than he gets as a manager at work.
I don't think KTP is a need for control, in all cases. Sometimes it's just that I enjoy being able to spend time with multiple partners at once, or not feeling like anyone has to choose between time spent with each partner ALL the time. (Obviously everyone needs alone time, but if people get along, it's a lot easier to feel like you have more time with people if they don't mind being around each other.)
