purplepeach72
New member
I'm a 42 yr old bi-female and have identified as poly for the last almost 15 years although I've only acted on it in the last 10. I am happily (until recently) married to N. N & I have been together for 5 years, married for 3 of those. We built our relationship on the concepts of honesty, trust, openness, respect and loyalty. We crafted a relationship contract/plan that gave us guidelines for dealing with each other and others. We have been active in the swinging community from the very start and I have never had any issues with sharing N. He did not believe he was capable of being poly until recently. My poly was never a threat to our marriage since it was primarily focused on me finding a female partner. My male partners were not love interests but were good friends. N's partners have all been within the swing, NSA realm until recently. After deceiving and hiding his involvement in an emotional affair he has decided that he is in love with another woman and is indeed poly. Had he come to me at the beginning I don't think I would have had any problems with this change. However, I am struggling with the betrayal and break of trust. My first post was about dealing with that. I truly love this man with all my heart. I normally have great compersion for his explorations. I hope we can work through this situation to everyone benefit. Thank you for listening and accepting me in this forum.
