Poly taketh and poly giveth away - acceptance

[Orlandobif]

Have you been presented with an ultimatum or realization that something in a relationship must be accepted because the relationship is more important than X? People come to poly with one spouse struggling. Introduction to a partners new found kink that is neither interesting nor comfortable. Life choices that reduce time and availability such as adding partners. Maybe you have been excluded from places or activities you want to share.

Freedom and access to these different things sometimes leaves a hole or vacuume where there was none before. It can't be solved or hasn't been and the mirror of life shows me regularly it is still there. Poly taketh and poly giveth away.

What I want sometimes is simple acceptance where I let go of revisiting dialogs of sadness. They are brief visits but still after many years unchanged and if I could have acceptance it would stop visiting, or so I hope.

 

[vinsanity0]

I've never had to accept something I normally wouldn't just to keep a relationship going. However, there are times I've come to realize that X wasn't important at all. Though once I did put X up on a shelf out of the way, but my partner would nervously glance at it every once in awhile. I probably would have been better off not showing it to her in the first place.

 

[kdt26417]

While I haven't been faced with an ultimatum, I do hold my relationship with Snowbunny as a very high priority, and would sacrifice much to save it.