Turkish. (Note that the "poly parrot" gag failed to translate from English, yet remains in the mythos!)
polyamory
Polyamori is a type of interpersonal relationship in which individuals can have more than one love, in other words, everyone in the relationship is conscious of it and approves it, in contrast to monogamy {monopoly?} or monomania.
"Polyamori" or "Multiple Love"
The origin of the word
The root of the word "polyamori" is based on Greek and Latin. In polish, poli means "very", Latin means amor "love". In this sense it is possible to translate the polyamory language into "multiple love". Multiple love is a more realistic and healthy way of thinking by questioning the "deception" practice encountered both in the monogamous relationships and resulting in the end of a relationship and the beginning of the other, as well as the random-transient sexual relations drawn from emotional continuity as well as the excesses and dilemmas of the sexual revolution theories and practices of the ' It strives to develop a cautious perspective. The history of the concept dates back to the 60's. With the lessons learned from the concept of "free love" in the 60s, the term "responsible non-monogamy" emerged in the 70s. The concept of "polyamori" began to be used briefly from the beginning of the '80s, and this concept became widespread in the mid-90s, becoming a part of everyday language, especially in North America and Europe.
Distinctive features of multiple love
Polyamori or multiple love involves emotional associations of "responsible, open, honest and long-term". Based on this definition, it is possible to mention three distinctive features of multiple love. First, multiple love runs through the knowledge and approval of everyone who is in the relationship. In this sense, it is based on "radical honesty" and is separated from "deception" practices. Second, it is based on long-term emotional closeness, and in this sense it is separated from the forms of relationship defined by sexuality such as "cheating", "one night stand", "polygamy". The third is the question of how more than one relationship of love can be sustained, not the fundamental problem of multi-affinity, attachment-nonconcern or freedom-security dilemma. It is assumed that both freedom and security are the basic requirements of man, and today these requirements are still considered "family" institutions. In this sense, unlike the anti-family discourse of the 60's, the problem is seen not in the "family" concept but in the way the content is filled. It is emphasized that the human needs that are met with the family establishment (from children to reproduction of everyday life) need not be denied by alternative lifestyles, but must be met in other ways. In order to meet these requirements, it is advisable to make alternative arrangements with explicitly defined rules, instead of a rule-free one.
Multiple affirities and difficulties
Multiple love choosers insist that this is not a superior lifestyle to monogamy. Multiple love sees it not only as an intellectual current to be propagandized, but as an emotional-sexual orientation. Multiple love, such as monogamy, has its own peculiarities and challenges. At the beginning of affirmations, the continuity of love relations, in other words, does not have to end the relation of love that exists when someone else likes it. But this is not always an easy process. The biggest problems come from how to deal with jealousy. There is no assurance that jealousy will be experienced less than in the affluent relationships in multiple love relationships. On the contrary, how to deal with jealousy in a situation where known patterns do not exist becomes a more frustrating problem. There is also an interesting concept developed in the early 90's: compersion. This concept, which means "to enjoy the love of a loved one with the love that another person has", is basically a kind of empathy that means that the loved one is feeling a good feeling in their own life. Multiple love choirs emphasize that something is more important to cope with jealousy and misconceptions: to talk. Continuous communication appears to be the only solution against all kinds of misunderstandings. The symbol they already use in the public space reflects this: the parrot.
A new identity struggle
Multiple lovemakers see monogamy as a legitimate emotional-sexual orientation, not as something to be fought. Single claims are their tendency to be seen as a legitimate choice or "recognition of their differences". In this respect they show great parallels with the demands and styles of the homosexual movement. How the homosexual movement explains that homosexuality does not have a superiority to heterosexuality, but that it is a different emotional-sexual orientation that there is no "heresy" in the face of heterosexuality, even if multiple love choosers do not claim monopoly superiority, Is needed. And as it is in the homosexual movement, it is in the effort to translate the language, which is used in legal texts, by slowly bringing up the struggles of the struggle. In this sense, those who choose multiple love are at the very beginning and a long struggle awaits them. But everyone is learning something from the questions and concepts that they reveal in their identity struggles, just as they are in the gay movement.