I'm new and sorry to be starting my time here on such a downer topic.
I am going through a breakup with my partner of almost two years in a functionally closed v triad. I moved in with my partner and her partner of 8 years in their home about nine months ago (I was apparently the mythical unicorn). We had many conversations over the past year or so about living together as a family, making plans for a significant geographic move, and planning to have and raise children together. A couple of weeks ago, my partner told me that for several reasons, she feels unable to maintain two relationships in our household. We have talked about me moving out and maintaining a more casual romantic relationship from afar, but at this time it is looking more like this will be the end. I am moving out regardless.
My friends have been superficially supportive but not very understanding about the relationship in the first place, and I am feeling very alone in all of this. I am navigating planning a move, leaving my job, finding a new job, and managing all of the feelings coming up. It is increasingly difficult to watch my partner being supported and happy in her relationship as she copes with this change while I'm left pretty uprooted. I am unable to logistically move out for another month (though I'm spending as much time as I can out of the house) and it is incredibly painful to watch them continue to plan the future that had been our future together, and to know that they will stay in our home and not much will change for them. I feel disposable, hurt, angry and depressed.
I guess I'm just looking for support and guidance from folks who have been here before, or in mildly similar situations, specifically around how to manage the situation and how to reduce the amount of bitterness I'm feeling at this point. I haven't done this before, and it feels hard to communicate with them about what I am going through and ask for support at this time.
I am going through a breakup with my partner of almost two years in a functionally closed v triad. I moved in with my partner and her partner of 8 years in their home about nine months ago (I was apparently the mythical unicorn). We had many conversations over the past year or so about living together as a family, making plans for a significant geographic move, and planning to have and raise children together. A couple of weeks ago, my partner told me that for several reasons, she feels unable to maintain two relationships in our household. We have talked about me moving out and maintaining a more casual romantic relationship from afar, but at this time it is looking more like this will be the end. I am moving out regardless.
My friends have been superficially supportive but not very understanding about the relationship in the first place, and I am feeling very alone in all of this. I am navigating planning a move, leaving my job, finding a new job, and managing all of the feelings coming up. It is increasingly difficult to watch my partner being supported and happy in her relationship as she copes with this change while I'm left pretty uprooted. I am unable to logistically move out for another month (though I'm spending as much time as I can out of the house) and it is incredibly painful to watch them continue to plan the future that had been our future together, and to know that they will stay in our home and not much will change for them. I feel disposable, hurt, angry and depressed.
I guess I'm just looking for support and guidance from folks who have been here before, or in mildly similar situations, specifically around how to manage the situation and how to reduce the amount of bitterness I'm feeling at this point. I haven't done this before, and it feels hard to communicate with them about what I am going through and ask for support at this time.
