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[FallenAngelina]

The important thing here is not that we focus on your body, Spork, or on any specific body that might have changed in childbirth and all manner of attendant medical interventions, but to illuminate that the notion of a "stretched vagina" is a much repeated myth that most women believe is a fact of childbirth. Sure, some women will see changes in their bodies from childbirth, but that doesn't mean that those changes happen to all or even most women as a result of having given birth. There is just no science to back up the assumption that the vagina becomes looser as a matter of course after childbirth.

What does make sense is that this myth gets perpetuated (along with the myth that a lot of sex loosens a woman's vagina) because of the pervasive concern over female sexuality and cultural efforts to keep it in check. I rather suspect that Green Acres is onto the real reason that older, more experienced women (many of whom have given birth) can accommodate and enjoy a wider array of sex options than younger women. Experience, confidence, knowing your body, much more effective and comfortable communication with partners and much, much, much less fear in general all go a very long way to enabling a woman to enjoy sex in ways that just didn't happen for her when she was younger. Our vaginas, as a rule, don't loosen as we progress through the natural life cycles, our anxieties do.

 

[Spork]

True and fair enough.

I apologize for wandering into the weeds. Mainly I argue about possible, versus not possible...as opposed to always versus never. I don't know what's common. I only know me.

I agree though, that whether it is maturity, life stages, circumstance...recent me is having much better sex than young me. Part of that was my partner choices. Inexperienced boys, a stifling marriage where my sexuality was a sacrifice to "do the right thing and keep the family together for the kids" (how unsexy can you possibly be??) compared to giving myself the freedom and permission to explore and adventure and accept sex and love for myself. Different worlds. 20 year old me would have judged present day me as intolerably selfish.