Hi I'd just like to introduce myself . I'm 25 , and a single mother from the uk. I'm kind of confused about my feelings and whether not I'm poly. Personally I've always felt my dream relationship would be a three way relationship , or an open one. I'm unsure though whether it is true poly feelings or commitment issues. I've wanted to have more than one partner since I can remember, the idea of Monogomy wasn't attractive to me , even as a child, infact I Dreamnt of marrying a girl or having a husband and wife . However I know the feeling of being monogomous for my whole life terrifies me, I'm a flirty person and I enjoy attention off of men . I miss the intimacy of a relationship and meaningless sex makes me feel used . My parents used to tell me I feel different if I met the right "one" but I met a man who I fell in love with and through it I felt trapped . I wanted him but I wanted secondary people. But not in a cheating way , but for us to play separately or together with other people. So in my head I feel I am poly. We separated thanks to infidelity on his part (would of forgiven it but it wa complicated) .However I'm confused . Do poly people feel jealous?. I'm cured toy in a fwb with this guy , who's quite a good friend of mine . We are not exclusive , something I asked for and was accepted on his part . Yet I do feel quite jealous if I know es had sex with other women?, or looking at other women. But my feelings confuse me because I'm unsure whether it is because he's slept with someone else or because I haven't?, I feel if we both went out and pulled someone I wouldn't feel jealous , or if we both knew a girl or guy and I had a sexual relationship with them too I wouldn't feel bad. I was so certain I was poly until I felt the jealousy lol. Anyway hi!
Possibly poly? Newbie here :)
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Greetings MamaIvy,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
Poly people are certainly not immune to jealousy; it is one of the things we talk about often. I have a list of links you can follow to get a better understanding on the subject:
Let us discuss the greeneye monster shall we?
How to slay the greeneyed beastie.
How To Contain The Green Monster
Jealousy, Envy, Insecurity, Etc.
How do you achieve compersion?
The Theory of Jealousy Management
The Practice of Jealousy Management
Jealousy and the Poly Family
Kathy Labriola: Unmasking the Green-Eyed Monster
Brené Brown: the Power of Vulnerability
Sometimes jealousy is nothing more than a sign that one or two of our own needs isn't being met. It really depends on the people and the situation.
To me you sound poly, however, whether you really are is a conclusion only you can come to. Read and post on our various threads and boards, and you will get a better idea of what it's all about.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
Notes:
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Welcome aboard!
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
Poly people are certainly not immune to jealousy; it is one of the things we talk about often. I have a list of links you can follow to get a better understanding on the subject:
Let us discuss the greeneye monster shall we?
How to slay the greeneyed beastie.
How To Contain The Green Monster
Jealousy, Envy, Insecurity, Etc.
How do you achieve compersion?
The Theory of Jealousy Management
The Practice of Jealousy Management
Jealousy and the Poly Family
Kathy Labriola: Unmasking the Green-Eyed Monster
Brené Brown: the Power of Vulnerability
Sometimes jealousy is nothing more than a sign that one or two of our own needs isn't being met. It really depends on the people and the situation.
To me you sound poly, however, whether you really are is a conclusion only you can come to. Read and post on our various threads and boards, and you will get a better idea of what it's all about.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
Notes:
There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!
Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.
Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.
If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.
Welcome aboard!