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Hello keepinon,
It is one thing to be able to love two or more people at one time, it is another thing to be okay with your partner loving two or more people. This is the difference your partner is up against. It was fine when they had another love interest, but now that it's you who has the other love interest, they are unable to support you in that. I don't know whether they see that this is a double standard.
There is a book called, "Polysecure," it might help if the two of you read that book together. It might also help if you could find a poly-friendly couples' counselor. It seems clear that you are both struggling with the current arrangement of things, you want to support each other but you just don't have the emotional bandwidth. Polyamory is worth it, but it is hard work. I hope you make it.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
It is one thing to be able to love two or more people at one time, it is another thing to be okay with your partner loving two or more people. This is the difference your partner is up against. It was fine when they had another love interest, but now that it's you who has the other love interest, they are unable to support you in that. I don't know whether they see that this is a double standard.
There is a book called, "Polysecure," it might help if the two of you read that book together. It might also help if you could find a poly-friendly couples' counselor. It seems clear that you are both struggling with the current arrangement of things, you want to support each other but you just don't have the emotional bandwidth. Polyamory is worth it, but it is hard work. I hope you make it.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.