dingedheart
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Not to pick at the semantic carcass of what makes a dead marriage, but if the lack of money is the only thing standing in the way of divorce, the marriage is dead.
Exactly.If the lack of money is the only thing standing in the way of divorce, the marriage is dead.
Sure, but when it comes to what really constitutes clear boundaries and expectations, it's a bigger topic than you think.But, isn’t one of the main principles here that the parties in the relationship get to define what works for them, so long as there are clear boundaries and expectations?
I'd disagree. But then, I see marriage as a legal contract between two people and the state. It does not require a romantic relationship. If the two people are happy in that legal contract then the marriage goes on happily. That can be for financial, medical, immigration or a bunch of other reasons. IMO the only bad reason to get married is for love. Marriage has nothing to do with love. If more people knew that, we'd have a lot less divorce.Not to pick at the semantic carcass of what makes a dead marriage, but if the lack of money is the only thing standing in the way of divorce, the marriage is dead.
Are you sure about that ?I'd disagree.
Yes, AND BY THE OP'S ADMISSION had he won the lotto, he’d be divorced. It sounds like, for him or them, the only glue holding this legal contract together is the lack of money and the hit everyone would take setting up two households and separating everything. One party in that legal contract wants out, and the unwinding process in community property states can get expensive.But then, I see marriage as a legal contract between two people and the state.
Maybe not for you. To each his own. For the unenlightened masses it could be a big component. Just sayin.'It does not require a romantic relationship.
No argument if both parties enter into the marriage contract to USE or to scam the system. That's a different ball of wax. What are the divorce stats on that? So when the tax laws or insurance regulations change, then, see ya later, we’re done? Treat marriage as a gym club membership.If the two people are happy in that legal contract then the marriage goes on happily. That can be for financial, medical, immigration or a bunch of other reasons.
How many time have you been married? What were the reasons?IMO the only bad reason to get married is for love.
Amen.Marriage has nothing to do with love. If more people knew that, we'd have a lot less divorce.
RIGHT. And I’ve never understood people who “identify“ as poly, who build relationships based on said identity, and still press to get married with a ceremony and party. But again, to each their own.If it's about love, then you can make a commitment. No marriage needed. They are two separate things.