Northerner
New member
I have been quietly lurking and reading since joining in April 2018. I am re-introducing myself because of some significant changes in my life.
My original intro is here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=101247&highlight=northerner
I (Northerner) am in a LTR with a mono partner (Tilly) though I always viewed myself as essentially poly. We both have kids from previous relationships (grown & gone now). Tilly is aware of my relationship orientation. Our relationship is about to become a LDR as I have taken a job in Calgary and she is staying behind since she has a good career in Ontario. This is not a breakup, just a long term separation (we have done this before).
One thing not mentioned in my previous introduction is that I have had a relationship with a married lady (Islander) in another province for several years. While no longer lovers, we are very close emotionally and are in contact daily. Tilly is aware of this and until a couple of years ago only tolerated it, but she now recognizes that Islander is not a threat to our relationship.
As part of our discussion of the logistics of maintaining our relationship Tilly stated that she accepts that I will have other partners. This came as a pleasant surprise, though I did think she was slowly warming to the idea of poly. I told her I am open to her seeking other partners while I am away, but says she is not interested. Everybody she knows seems to have major drama in their lives so she views our stable happy relationship as an exception, and she is reluctant to get involved in that. At least if she does encounter somebody who interests her, she knows I support her pursuing them.
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Northerner: Male, 64, Tilly's long term partner
Tilly: Female, 64, Northerner's long term partner
Islander: Female, 49, Northerner's former GF
Vince: Male, 74, Islander's husband
Hal: Male, 58, Islander's BF
My original intro is here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=101247&highlight=northerner
I (Northerner) am in a LTR with a mono partner (Tilly) though I always viewed myself as essentially poly. We both have kids from previous relationships (grown & gone now). Tilly is aware of my relationship orientation. Our relationship is about to become a LDR as I have taken a job in Calgary and she is staying behind since she has a good career in Ontario. This is not a breakup, just a long term separation (we have done this before).
One thing not mentioned in my previous introduction is that I have had a relationship with a married lady (Islander) in another province for several years. While no longer lovers, we are very close emotionally and are in contact daily. Tilly is aware of this and until a couple of years ago only tolerated it, but she now recognizes that Islander is not a threat to our relationship.
As part of our discussion of the logistics of maintaining our relationship Tilly stated that she accepts that I will have other partners. This came as a pleasant surprise, though I did think she was slowly warming to the idea of poly. I told her I am open to her seeking other partners while I am away, but says she is not interested. Everybody she knows seems to have major drama in their lives so she views our stable happy relationship as an exception, and she is reluctant to get involved in that. At least if she does encounter somebody who interests her, she knows I support her pursuing them.
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Northerner: Male, 64, Tilly's long term partner
Tilly: Female, 64, Northerner's long term partner
Islander: Female, 49, Northerner's former GF
Vince: Male, 74, Islander's husband
Hal: Male, 58, Islander's BF
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