Relationship Vulnerabilities Quiz

Is anyone willing to share their partner's scores? I always thought my partner and I were on the same page and was truly surprised when we scored differently. It was a real eye surprise for me - I would say a turnaround moment in my relationship even.

Anyone else have a similar (or different) experience?
 
D's (my husband's) answers

1. We had problems trusting each other early in our relationship.
0

2. Our relationship revolves around our children (or for childless couples, we disagree on whether or not to have children).
1 ("because how can it not")

3. My partner spends too much time away from home.
0

4. My partner rarely takes my side in anything.
0

5. We've grown apart.
0

6. I have felt alone and unsupported at times of loss or crises.
0

7. We don't have equal input for important decisions.
0

8. We argue about the frequency of sex.
1 (he wants more, he sees frequency as a barometer of something)

9. Our interactions feel more like a parent-child relationship than one between equals.
0

10. We are uncomfortable about exposing our inner selves to each other.
0

11. We sweep things under the rug so we hardly ever fight.
0

12. There's a disparity in how invested we are in the relationship.
0

13. I feel I can't influence my partner to do what I request.
0

14. I don't know if I really love my partner.
0

15. We don't know how to repair after a conflict.
0 (can't think of any conflicts)

16. We don't have much in common.
0 (We have much in common, our general outlook, life philosophy, empathy)



2 points for D.

My results were:
1 point for me, and I'm gonna add 3 points for the question I don't know the answer to. So 4.

So, Safe Harbor it is :)
 
Looks like R. and I scored a 2-3 ("we've grown apart" describes the last two months of it, at least from her side) - solidly in the "Safe Harbor" range.

No surprise... but it does make me a good bit melancholy again that it ended. *sigh*
 
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