"Sex At Dawn"

[SheBLittleButFierce]

Reading is my first and most ardent lover and has never failed me. I've found yet another gem! Has anyone read this?!
I don't know if the photo will show up on the mobile platform so it is title Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cecilia Jethá

I usually don't recommend books until I'm finished but I was too excited about this to hold it in. As a future anthropologist this is a fantastic start to opening the dialog to everyone about sexual, emotional and mating behavior between the most sexual primates of all; us!

 

[FallenAngelina]

Sex at Dawn has become a cornerstone of poly research and discussion, so many in the community have read this book. If you're interested, there is quite a bit of analysis of this book on the internet.

 

[2muchlove]

I haven't, but I'm very much looking forward to, it's on the list for sure. Might try forcing my husband to read it lol

 

[kdt26417]

I read it, and enjoyed it. I only agreed with, say, 75% of it, but I really liked the food for thought it contained. I often recommend it to others.

 

[SheBLittleButFierce]

Sex at Dawn has become a cornerstone of poly research and discussion, so many in the community have read this book. If you're interested, there is quite a bit of analysis of this book on the internet.

Thank you for the link! I am really excited about this and have to admit to confirmation bias since much of the info in this book comes from studies that I'm learning of in anthropology! So exciting!

 

[SheBLittleButFierce]

I read it, and enjoyed it. I only agreed with, say, 75% of it, but I really liked the food for thought it contained. I often recommend it to others.

My favorite aspect of the book is that it blatantly asks why we are so eager to make excuses for our violent behaviors by looking at chimps but refuse to acknowledge that bonobos (or even violent chimps) are capable of good if not Noble culture sharing! It has the mood of changing the way we even talk about the situation!

I chose polyamory because I've always loved more than one person at a time, but also because I find power to support my own autonomy in the act of claiming the power to be or not to be sexual with anyone who also consents. (I was raised religiously and female sexual autonomy is reviled and threatened in a religious context).

This lifestyle gives me choice and happiness and I'm noticing that the males who disagree with my polyamory are controlling and incensed that a woman would dare say no to a man and the women who disagree with me think I am a threat to them and want to steal their "provider." I find both of these one-sided, gender-biased, black and white approaches to be abhorrent. The above male approach assumes that women must ask permission to behave in any manner and the above female approach admits publicly that the woman's male partner is used for financial purposes. It's terrible!

The language of this book is giving me ideas on how to find a middle ground in polyamory!

 

[kdt26417]

It's an excellent book, it really is.

 

[IndieSolo]

Hi there! Just a tip... if you can get into the habit of using the Search function here before creating a new thread, you will usually find many other discussions here that you can add to. It's perfectly fine to resurrect older threads here, and there are lots of gems to be found in past discussions.

In this case, we've got a whole thread on Sex at Dawn here: Book: Sex at Dawn

and another one with book recommendations here: Polyamory Books, Magazines, Websites


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