Sex & Desire

[Magdlyn]

People obviously have different expectations for their relationships.

Marcus expects to go with the flow as relationships change and shift and end or whatever, and expects his partners to do the same, in keeping, I'm guessing, with the "anarchy" part of his relationship philosophy.

Magdlyn expects herself and her partner(s) to continue meeting each other's needs, including that for social acceptance and love, throughout the relationship, regardless of other factors and circumstances.

Well, no. Not regardless of everything. Illness, a death, new baby, massive overtime at work, other highly stressful life events, sure, sex can wane. I am just referring to polyamory, and new partners, NRE, overshadowing and eclipsing the needs of the established partner. That is just rude, IMO. And manners are important, dammit.

 

[KC43]

I apologize for coming across like "courtesy police" or for misinterpreting what was said. I've edited my previous post to be more accurate to what I was trying to say.

 

[london]

I see that whole debate as Marcus not needing sex (or any particular thing on a continuous basis) from his partner(s) and Magdlyn needing sex (as well as other things) on a continuous basis from her partner(s). I have both things I need to be a constant (sex being one of them) and things that I don't. I suspect the vast majority (including Magdlyn) are the same.

The OP needs to decide whether sex is something they need as a constant from their partner and if it is, express that to them. If their partner decides they can not be sexually intimate with the OP, then the OP, should find one or more compatible partners who do meet their needs. No point complaining and then not doing anything about it.