DreadedRose
New member
So, I've hunted through the tags and searched around some and I haven't really seen much up to date regarding this topic.
I am new to the solo poly life after disconnecting from multiple codependent and toxic relationships. I have found that my life is far more enriching and fulfilling when I live in solitude with my animals and stick with shorter interactions.
It's also allowed me to be more real and free about my interactions with others. I see my relationships with others like colors. Each one is a different shade and combined with my color, creates a different aura. Some deep with love and not sexual, some great vibing lovely friends that are sexual, and it spans the board there in between.
In my past relationships, even in my poly marriage, it held a lot of jealousy, both unspoken and vaguely manipulative as well as outwardly controlling. I found myself turning down the volume a great deal on important connections to me, or even severing the connection to avoid the conflict.
Now, at the very least, with no nesting partners, I don't have to worry about much of that conflict, if any.
I just want to know who is still here, or new here, that is solo poly (or has been). How did you function? In what ways did it benefit you? What was/is the hardest part? Are you a relationship anarchist or do you acknowledge specific relationships (if so, how)?
I am new to the solo poly life after disconnecting from multiple codependent and toxic relationships. I have found that my life is far more enriching and fulfilling when I live in solitude with my animals and stick with shorter interactions.
It's also allowed me to be more real and free about my interactions with others. I see my relationships with others like colors. Each one is a different shade and combined with my color, creates a different aura. Some deep with love and not sexual, some great vibing lovely friends that are sexual, and it spans the board there in between.
In my past relationships, even in my poly marriage, it held a lot of jealousy, both unspoken and vaguely manipulative as well as outwardly controlling. I found myself turning down the volume a great deal on important connections to me, or even severing the connection to avoid the conflict.
Now, at the very least, with no nesting partners, I don't have to worry about much of that conflict, if any.
I just want to know who is still here, or new here, that is solo poly (or has been). How did you function? In what ways did it benefit you? What was/is the hardest part? Are you a relationship anarchist or do you acknowledge specific relationships (if so, how)?