Solutions when neither can host

Rorschach

Rorschach

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Hi all,

I couldn't find a thread on this but my searching may have not been thorough so apologies if this has been covered elsewhere.

I'm in the early weeks of a new secondary relationship and it is progressing to the stage of deeper intimacy but neither of us can host for various reasons. The nature of how we date means that it is quite spontaneous so planning to book a hotel or something in advance won't work. Also, we can't do overnight so just ideally need a semi-spontaneous space we can go to for a few hours should we want to. Either something we can find/book on the day or 1 or 2 days in advance and ideally for a short period of time rather than a full overnight booking.

I'm assuming that many others will be in a similar situation so I thought I'd ask what you do or get some ideas. (I'm central London based if that helps at all).

R
 
Well, some towns have those "no tell motels" that rent by the hour.

There are BnBs that you can book last minute, probably, in the off seasons.

Otherwise, you can usually get a hotel room on short notice in most places, unless there's a big convention going on or something. Even if you can't stay the night, you'll have to pay full price.

Some cities have swinger sex clubs where there are plenty of private rooms. You don't have to be involved with anyone else, just go and have your sexy time and leave. I know of one near me where you can stay in each room for 45 minutes, although you can usually stretch it to an hour. If you want more private time, you just move to another room. It doesn't sound perfect, but it's less money than a hotel room, and everyone is there just for a few hours, so you won't have to feel embarrassed to leave and not come back, as you might at a hotel.

Or you could be like teenagers and do it in the woods, or in the car in a less popular hiking trail parking lot.
 
Hello Rorschach,

Since you can't meet up in a hotel or motel, you are really out of options. What else is there? that or you look for a way to overcome the obstacles to hosting at one of your homes, and I don't know how to do that.

I think my advice is to go ahead and get a motel room at the last minute. I do hear that there are some places that will let you book by the hour, so that would cost less and would let you be spontaneous. You have to work with what you've got. A tent and air mattress also sound like good ideas.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
A tent is probably not gonna work this time of the year :D LoL. Do y'all live in warm climates?

Not being able to meet at home really makes sex way more difficult. I like the suggestion of looking into swingers, it's not cheap but probably still cheaper than hotels. If your relationship lasts and deapens you could look into renting a condo/room somewhere... although... central London 🤔

Speak to your partners how to make an occasional visit viable.
 
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