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Steelybran

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Hey everyone!

40 years old / Male / Central Virginia

A little background on me, I guess? Not sure how to start off these things.

A few years ago, in my previous marriage, I began to explore being polyamory. It was limited to online, and discussing it with my wife. It never went beyond that as we eventually separated (unrelated to the poly discussions).

After a year, I started dating a woman who was a very long-time friend. A year later we got married, and I didn't go back to exploring this aspect because I wanted to be absolutely certain that I was not misinterpreting my feelings. While I do love my wife, I sat down with her and told her of this aspect and that I still feel this way. She has told me that she fully supports the decision.

So, here I am. Kind of already met one person online who I've spoken with a good bit, and we're planning on meeting up some point (so people who are near me, not multiple states away like before).

Anyway, nice to meet everyone! I'm pretty open, so please ask away.
 
Greetings Steelybran,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Kudos to you for being honest with your wife; kudos to her for being supportive to you. Nonmonogamy (even the ethical kind) isn't widely accepted, so there is a rare gift in someone who supports the idea right from the start.

I hope you'll have a good time with the person online whom you've spoken to a good bit, and that Polyamory.com will help you in that journey.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Hi Steelybran,

Sometimes when you post advice to someone else, you discover new advice for yourself. I have discovered this myself. I think you'll prove to be a valuable asset here. Glad to have you with us.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Welcome, Steelybran,

I've only been here a couple of months myself - after my wife asked to open our marriage - but have found everyone welcoming and helpful - with lots of good advice. Make sure you check out the search function - many thousands of post to search from if you are looking for info on a particular topic.

Best,

Al
 
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