Glitterpunch
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Hello! 
How you doin'?
I'm a 21-year-old, bisexual sorta-lady (I fluctuate between masculine and feminine expression) with a wonderful bicurious male partner (24) who I've been with for almost a year. Both of us are communicative, talk-it-out types who are continually curious and interested in psychology, sociology, and human behavior in general, including the way our own minds are influenced by society's biases and stereotypes. Lately, we've been more and more curious about exploring polyamory.
Since the start of our relationship things have been a little rocky for me. I'd never been "committed" before (I'm very, very picky) and I didn't expect my lifelong habit of forming intense, passionate crushes on multiple people at once to continue into "monogamous" life, so when it did, I felt very guilty, though he was understanding (if concerned.) We didn't talk poly, because I'd never really looked into it, so for a time I just thought of myself as a "horrible significant other."
But after some fishing around on google, it occurred to me that there were other people who, though they absolutely adored their partner, (I'm crazy about him, we have many interests in common, the same bizarre sense of humor etc) were still attracted to and interested in forming romantic connections with others. It kinda blew my mind, and I shared what I was learning with him.
Over the past couple months, we've been taking baby-steps toward the idea of going on a poly date or two. We've been "testing the waters" for a while, hence the title, talking through what we are and are not comfortable with and really enjoying the way our sharing like this brings us closer as a couple and allows for much-needed personal introspection. We're both leaning away from jealousy and towards compersion, which has been really nice!
We have a mutual friend, male, who I have developed a strong attraction to and interest in, which has helped us gauge his and my reactions to certain behaviors. I doubt I'll be pursuing this man in any way other than platonically, because he doesn't seem quite like the "poly" type (though I could be wrong) but even navigating our flirtation has been an interesting exercise for both me and my partner.
I find the more accepting and open-minded I am of him as an individual and of his and my outside desires not equaling a rejection or signaling a problem in our relationship, the happier I am. I'm a very social but also very independent person and I like to be in control of my own agency and not feel like I have heavily culture-influence "relationship laws" tying me down.
Anyhow! Aside from the above, I am an animal behavior enthusiast, I love graphic novels, and I'm currently pursuing a degree in psychology. I joined the forum to gain a better of understanding of a lifestyle/mindset I am very interested in exploring. I can be pretty shy so I might not respond very often, but I'm happy to be part of the community and looking forward to learning from all of you
Oh, and you can call me "Glitter" if it suits you.
Thanks for reading all of this! Please say "hi" tell me a little about yourself if you feel comfortable.
How you doin'?I'm a 21-year-old, bisexual sorta-lady (I fluctuate between masculine and feminine expression) with a wonderful bicurious male partner (24) who I've been with for almost a year. Both of us are communicative, talk-it-out types who are continually curious and interested in psychology, sociology, and human behavior in general, including the way our own minds are influenced by society's biases and stereotypes. Lately, we've been more and more curious about exploring polyamory.
Since the start of our relationship things have been a little rocky for me. I'd never been "committed" before (I'm very, very picky) and I didn't expect my lifelong habit of forming intense, passionate crushes on multiple people at once to continue into "monogamous" life, so when it did, I felt very guilty, though he was understanding (if concerned.) We didn't talk poly, because I'd never really looked into it, so for a time I just thought of myself as a "horrible significant other."
But after some fishing around on google, it occurred to me that there were other people who, though they absolutely adored their partner, (I'm crazy about him, we have many interests in common, the same bizarre sense of humor etc) were still attracted to and interested in forming romantic connections with others. It kinda blew my mind, and I shared what I was learning with him.
Over the past couple months, we've been taking baby-steps toward the idea of going on a poly date or two. We've been "testing the waters" for a while, hence the title, talking through what we are and are not comfortable with and really enjoying the way our sharing like this brings us closer as a couple and allows for much-needed personal introspection. We're both leaning away from jealousy and towards compersion, which has been really nice
!We have a mutual friend, male, who I have developed a strong attraction to and interest in, which has helped us gauge his and my reactions to certain behaviors. I doubt I'll be pursuing this man in any way other than platonically, because he doesn't seem quite like the "poly" type (though I could be wrong) but even navigating our flirtation has been an interesting exercise for both me and my partner.
I find the more accepting and open-minded I am of him as an individual and of his and my outside desires not equaling a rejection or signaling a problem in our relationship, the happier I am. I'm a very social but also very independent person and I like to be in control of my own agency and not feel like I have heavily culture-influence "relationship laws" tying me down.
Anyhow! Aside from the above, I am an animal behavior enthusiast, I love graphic novels, and I'm currently pursuing a degree in psychology. I joined the forum to gain a better of understanding of a lifestyle/mindset I am very interested in exploring. I can be pretty shy so I might not respond very often, but I'm happy to be part of the community and looking forward to learning from all of you
Oh, and you can call me "Glitter" if it suits you.
Thanks for reading all of this! Please say "hi" tell me a little about yourself if you feel comfortable.
