MoostacheKitteh
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Okay so I am going to try to be as brief as possible and still try to make everything make sense.
My Fiance and I have been together 3.5 years and I recently discovered I was polyamorous about 6 months to a year ago, give or take. My Fiance understands and is fully supportive.
I have known this guy long distance who lives in India and we have been good friends for about 2 and a half years. We really got to know each other and have grown to care for each other very deeply.
In January he told me he loved me and I told him the same, which I do, I really do love him. We made our relationship official on January 31st and it has been great since then.
I always told him that I am fine with him seeing other people, being that we were long distance and could not be together physically, so I thought it was only fair that he be able to date other people. Another thing we agreed to was that if he was to get serious with someone that he had to tell them about me and they had to approve. He agreed it was fair.
Easier said than done apparently.
He met this girl a couple weeks ago and spent the entire weekend with her, which I was fine with, but what made me upset about it was that he ignored me that entire weekend and one of his friends messaged me asking if I had heard from him because he told her he was sick and went to the Hospital (which turned out to be a lie he told her). Naturally I was worried and mad at him for not telling me what was really going on…
Anyways, he was with this new girl who he is still seeing and cares very much about. Only one tinsy winsy problem… he was too scared to bring me and our relationship up to her and was afraid she would leave hm. I told him that he screwed up by not telling her and letting things get serious and I was hurt that I was not a priority of his like he was of mine.
We are down to basically, him having to make a decision. I hate making him decided between us two, polyamory is all about being open with all of your partners and not having to choose between lovers, it’s about unity and a mutual agreement between everyone involved and if he won’t tell her then we can’t be together, end of story.
I am not bitter, I wish him all the happiness in the world and I hope he and this other woman can be happy together. I truly wish him the best and will always be here for him as the good friend I have been for so long. I love him and support him in whatever decision he makes regarding this. I am just hurt that I won’t be apart of his life in the way we have talked about and fantasized about. It feels like a part of me is missing now and I just feel so down but I am happy for him at the same time. My fiancé and girlfriend are keeping me sane through this whole thing and I just hope he doesn’t regret whatever decision he makes.
Thanks for reading
My Fiance and I have been together 3.5 years and I recently discovered I was polyamorous about 6 months to a year ago, give or take. My Fiance understands and is fully supportive.
I have known this guy long distance who lives in India and we have been good friends for about 2 and a half years. We really got to know each other and have grown to care for each other very deeply.
In January he told me he loved me and I told him the same, which I do, I really do love him. We made our relationship official on January 31st and it has been great since then.
I always told him that I am fine with him seeing other people, being that we were long distance and could not be together physically, so I thought it was only fair that he be able to date other people. Another thing we agreed to was that if he was to get serious with someone that he had to tell them about me and they had to approve. He agreed it was fair.
Easier said than done apparently.
He met this girl a couple weeks ago and spent the entire weekend with her, which I was fine with, but what made me upset about it was that he ignored me that entire weekend and one of his friends messaged me asking if I had heard from him because he told her he was sick and went to the Hospital (which turned out to be a lie he told her). Naturally I was worried and mad at him for not telling me what was really going on…
Anyways, he was with this new girl who he is still seeing and cares very much about. Only one tinsy winsy problem… he was too scared to bring me and our relationship up to her and was afraid she would leave hm. I told him that he screwed up by not telling her and letting things get serious and I was hurt that I was not a priority of his like he was of mine.
We are down to basically, him having to make a decision. I hate making him decided between us two, polyamory is all about being open with all of your partners and not having to choose between lovers, it’s about unity and a mutual agreement between everyone involved and if he won’t tell her then we can’t be together, end of story.
I am not bitter, I wish him all the happiness in the world and I hope he and this other woman can be happy together. I truly wish him the best and will always be here for him as the good friend I have been for so long. I love him and support him in whatever decision he makes regarding this. I am just hurt that I won’t be apart of his life in the way we have talked about and fantasized about. It feels like a part of me is missing now and I just feel so down but I am happy for him at the same time. My fiancé and girlfriend are keeping me sane through this whole thing and I just hope he doesn’t regret whatever decision he makes.
Thanks for reading
