Not gonna lie, this is 90% vent.
Dynamics Explained:
I've broken up with Jim, lovely human, we're still friends.
Connie has become my primary partner. She has a handful of comet people, and one somewhat closer partner I'll call Heather.
Kyle is as stable as ever.
Hope is being her comet self somewhere far away at the moment.
Mary has shown some signs of improving as a human; and this post is actually about that.
Story Time:
Ugh, I've gotten jealous for the second time in five years of poly--but it's not because of my partner, so yay?
Heather has a large poly network, and about once a month will organize an outing that will include Connie. This has made me jealous because I realized I used to have a similar Kitchen Table dynamic with Mary, Hope, and others, but I don't trust my group of friends anymore.
Back when I started Dating Jim (Mary's ex, who Mary had a breakdown over when she learned that we were dating) I gave our friend group a head's up, and everyone elected not to tell Mary for several months. During this time I started seeing Connie--and Mary developed a large crush on her. Given the fresh memory or Mary's meltdown over Jim; the friend group elected to not let Mary know about my relationship with Connie.
This all went down shortly after Mary tried to make her mental state my responsibility, so I was glad to be rid of her at the time. But now Mary's showing signs of growth, and I feel stuck.
It's been the better part of a year, and if I was to tell Mary anything about my life, it would have to include Connie--and I can't do that without Mary figuring out most of her friends have been lying to her this whole time.
I feel like I'm in this sucky situation and I just need to distance myself from most of the group. So I'm doing that, and reaching out and making plans with others, but that's taking time because we're all adults. So I'm venting here.
Thank you.
Dynamics Explained:
I've broken up with Jim, lovely human, we're still friends.
Connie has become my primary partner. She has a handful of comet people, and one somewhat closer partner I'll call Heather.
Kyle is as stable as ever.
Hope is being her comet self somewhere far away at the moment.
Mary has shown some signs of improving as a human; and this post is actually about that.
Story Time:
Ugh, I've gotten jealous for the second time in five years of poly--but it's not because of my partner, so yay?
Heather has a large poly network, and about once a month will organize an outing that will include Connie. This has made me jealous because I realized I used to have a similar Kitchen Table dynamic with Mary, Hope, and others, but I don't trust my group of friends anymore.
Back when I started Dating Jim (Mary's ex, who Mary had a breakdown over when she learned that we were dating) I gave our friend group a head's up, and everyone elected not to tell Mary for several months. During this time I started seeing Connie--and Mary developed a large crush on her. Given the fresh memory or Mary's meltdown over Jim; the friend group elected to not let Mary know about my relationship with Connie.
This all went down shortly after Mary tried to make her mental state my responsibility, so I was glad to be rid of her at the time. But now Mary's showing signs of growth, and I feel stuck.
It's been the better part of a year, and if I was to tell Mary anything about my life, it would have to include Connie--and I can't do that without Mary figuring out most of her friends have been lying to her this whole time.
I feel like I'm in this sucky situation and I just need to distance myself from most of the group. So I'm doing that, and reaching out and making plans with others, but that's taking time because we're all adults. So I'm venting here.
Thank you.
