The Varieties of Intimate Relationship
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SchrodingersCat
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Thank you for sharing. It's been a while since these have made the rounds and may be new to some people. Is there any specific discussion you would like to start about them?
My biggest issue with them is they're biased. Especially the venn diagram comes across as "right" and "wrong" which I don't agree with.
My other issue is that they're label-centric, and I find that labels don't usually fit quite right for anybody, plus people like to use labels with their own subtle meaning which really adds to the confusion when using diagrams like these as definitive rather than thought provoking.
My biggest issue with them is they're biased. Especially the venn diagram comes across as "right" and "wrong" which I don't agree with.
My other issue is that they're label-centric, and I find that labels don't usually fit quite right for anybody, plus people like to use labels with their own subtle meaning which really adds to the confusion when using diagrams like these as definitive rather than thought provoking.
xiaobao10869
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It helps me identify where I am.
xiaobao10869
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Yeah, I don't judge rights and wrongs too. However, the power do. Anyway don't want to talk about it. Just enjoy the gift of the life-our human happiness.
InsaneMystic
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The second one is weird and makes my head hurt. 
And the X whose arrow description sounds the closest to me ("You can have other partners, but I really prefer not to hear the details") gets rates as "Open, Polyamourous, Mono/Poly, DADT, Polyfi"?!
Open and Poly are spot on; I can get the Mono/Poly and DADT placements, even when they don't really apply to my own sitch (as in "I understand why a casual outside onlooker would see it that way")... but the "Polyfi" part doesn't make even the least bit of sense at all.
And the X whose arrow description sounds the closest to me ("You can have other partners, but I really prefer not to hear the details") gets rates as "Open, Polyamourous, Mono/Poly, DADT, Polyfi"?!
Open and Poly are spot on; I can get the Mono/Poly and DADT placements, even when they don't really apply to my own sitch (as in "I understand why a casual outside onlooker would see it that way")... but the "Polyfi" part doesn't make even the least bit of sense at all.
YouAreHere
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I'm not the biggest fan of the second one, either... None of the labels pointing to the mono/poly "blob" really fit my relationship, and some of the non-overlapping items are so unrelated, they could overlap or not. It makes things seem much more separate than they really are (I could be in a D/s mono/poly relationship, no?).
SchrodingersCat
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I've always gotten the impression that the second one was designed by someone who has one of those "my way is better" kinds of attitudes. It's more of a way to poke fun at people who do things differently, than an actual guide for people to self-identify.