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Beka

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hi folks-

just wanted to give you an overview & let you know i visit & gather solace from many of your tribulations. i am glad i am not alone.

my husband [of 31years] is out of state for 5 days while i hold down the homestead. it is leisure trip w a buddy, leaving me time this weekend to visit w therapists and today [saturday] hopefully do several paintings that are jostling around my head/spirit wanting expression. he is w his female lover of 1 1/2 years. although he & i have not been sexual for about 10 years, i am fine w his sexual solution. less stress for me. they have taken trips together in the past, but nonetheless there is something stressful about his trips & dates for me. your experiences have helped in so many ways w my longheld asexual attitudes. i would be content to never have sex again, but i do enjoy hugs. this is difficult for him. we have found a solution that works most of the time.

we have a new dog= simon, a catahoulla-great dane mix. rescued at the shelter. he is to become my multiple sclerosis service dog, so trainer comes to our home once a week to train him & us. we have been w this gentle, non-drooling, semi trained friend for 2 weeks now.

i have gone off tecfidera medicine & am doing great. i was on it for about 3 years, taking pills to counteract its side effects. i read that the primary component is used in the furniture industry & illegal in europe. i am reactive to many chemicals, so my better physical condition we greatly attribute to this one being out of my life.

physical & occupational therapists have been coming to my home for about 2 months. their visits perk up my week & their professional work is helping me physically in so many ways. i can brush my teeth & clean art brushes w out wobbling. i am trying to exercise more. i can walk better, although my various wheelchairs are not leaving soon. my husband says he has not seen me this well in 2 years! doing rudimentary tai chi at home.

so- life is better. thankyou.
 
Hi Beka,

I'm glad that you and your husband have managed to work together to handle your different wants and needs. I haven't yet been in a position where my life partner has taken a trip with one of her lovers yet, but I think I would find it a bit challenging, no matter how well adjusted I am to her other relationships. That being said, we have travelled alone a fair bit during our time together. She's from a different country to the one we live in, and it's not always practical for me to take time off when she goes back to visit friends and family. I also travel for work occasionally. I think it's good to occasionally be in the position of missing your long-term partner - it makes their homecoming all the sweeter! And having an animal around the house is also great - from both a giving and a receiving affection perspective, as well as many others. We have a cat, and she's pretty good at sensing my moods. If I'm feeling down at all, that's when she wants cuddles. It might seem a bit corny, but on my introvert days, I really get a lot of comfort from her company.

Thanks for saying hello, and welcome!
 
Hi Beka,

Glad to hear things are going better for you nowadays. You have many challenges, that much is clear, but you are meeting them head-on. Congrats!

Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
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