minnegander
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Hi, there!
So, I posted a story about my current situation, but realized (after Shaya's comment) that I ramble a lot and I was also so tired last night when I posted - I actually didn't realize I posted it until I saw t he comment! Sorry about that!
Anyway, I'm in a polyamorous relationship that started with two couples just under a year ago. During this last year, they got married and I got engaged. We were invited to live with them and build a new life in a newly purchased home. During this time, TF and CPF went through some troubles and TF was there to support CPF emotionally and financially through the process. Per CPF's recommendation, we four decided to see a counselor every other week just to make sure we were all on the same page and could share our thoughts and emotions with each other as not to get lost in the trauma they were going through.
In this process, myself and PF got attached to TF more than we thought we ever would. CPF saw TF was getting deeply attached too. In a session, CPF tells us that he's not physically attracted to either PF or I, but he loves us more than he could describe and would take a bullet. He was okay with the other three of us carrying on with our relationship sexually.
Eventually, however, he became jealous. He was nasty, emotionally degrading, and downright mean over the next month or so. TF realized the manipulation, emotional abuse, and non-support that CPF put him through for over 10 years of their relationship and, even more so for the six months after their marriage. I felt terrible. They discussed divorce, but TF committed he would see CPF through the court case and trial, but our house is full of tension. The other three of us (myself, TF, & PF) spend the two months spending every weekend away from home as CPF becomes even more nasty toward all of us as the weeks go on.
Fast forward a month and CPF is found innocent. TF and he discuss divorce. He has since moved out and filed for divorce. TF, PF, and I are able to explore this new life we are sharing, working through insecurities and emotions we've never had to deal with before. We continue to see our counselor and it helps so much.
Anyway, hopefully this makes sense!
I'm happy to be here and thankful there's a support forum out there!
So, I posted a story about my current situation, but realized (after Shaya's comment) that I ramble a lot and I was also so tired last night when I posted - I actually didn't realize I posted it until I saw t he comment! Sorry about that!
Anyway, I'm in a polyamorous relationship that started with two couples just under a year ago. During this last year, they got married and I got engaged. We were invited to live with them and build a new life in a newly purchased home. During this time, TF and CPF went through some troubles and TF was there to support CPF emotionally and financially through the process. Per CPF's recommendation, we four decided to see a counselor every other week just to make sure we were all on the same page and could share our thoughts and emotions with each other as not to get lost in the trauma they were going through.
In this process, myself and PF got attached to TF more than we thought we ever would. CPF saw TF was getting deeply attached too. In a session, CPF tells us that he's not physically attracted to either PF or I, but he loves us more than he could describe and would take a bullet. He was okay with the other three of us carrying on with our relationship sexually.
Eventually, however, he became jealous. He was nasty, emotionally degrading, and downright mean over the next month or so. TF realized the manipulation, emotional abuse, and non-support that CPF put him through for over 10 years of their relationship and, even more so for the six months after their marriage. I felt terrible. They discussed divorce, but TF committed he would see CPF through the court case and trial, but our house is full of tension. The other three of us (myself, TF, & PF) spend the two months spending every weekend away from home as CPF becomes even more nasty toward all of us as the weeks go on.
Fast forward a month and CPF is found innocent. TF and he discuss divorce. He has since moved out and filed for divorce. TF, PF, and I are able to explore this new life we are sharing, working through insecurities and emotions we've never had to deal with before. We continue to see our counselor and it helps so much.
Anyway, hopefully this makes sense!
I'm happy to be here and thankful there's a support forum out there!
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