Hi guys,there is this girl who asked her friend for my contact.She lives in the same apartments,that I moved to a month ago.She texted me,said who she was & that she likes my personality and wants to be a friend.Somewhere in the conversation,she sayed "what if I wanted something more?" I dont know what she meant,but I replied that: "well figure out that" she insisted me to tell her,then I said "i dont know what to say about that already".Actually its because I didnt even know her yet,i did not even know how she looked like.We bumped into each other once when I was moving into the apartments,& she said hi.Though she has seen me a couple of times at night around,but I never saw her face,until after she took my contact,& invited me to her room after 3days to say hi.She is 26,& im 22,that doesnt count for now,i know.But guys help me out on how to deal with this.
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Hi Evean,
I suppose the thing to do at this point is invite this girl out for coffee. This way it's just a friendly meeting, in a public place. You can chat and get to know each other. Even if she doesn't stir any romantic feelings in you, you can still be platonic friends, assuming that's okay with her. The point is, meeting for coffee is a pretty innocuous proposition.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
I suppose the thing to do at this point is invite this girl out for coffee. This way it's just a friendly meeting, in a public place. You can chat and get to know each other. Even if she doesn't stir any romantic feelings in you, you can still be platonic friends, assuming that's okay with her. The point is, meeting for coffee is a pretty innocuous proposition.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
What now?
Thanks buddy
. ,that aint bad.Its a long story,i dont even know how to explain in text.She is a nice single girl,i kinda like her,she gave me butterflies sometimes, but now i'm emotionally strong & cant let pple override me.She said no to a date while we were chatting.Her friend loves joking about us as bf & gf.Its just an indirect perspective.
Do you think its a good idea if i go upto her close friend whom she took my contact from? And maybe get some heads up about it?Which will be private.Because she might know what that girl is really upto,coz maybe she wants me to talk to her,u know most girls biologically cant hit directly on a guy,she may even want sth like "friends with benefits with no srings" .Plus its unusual for a girl to just take a guys number & say that she likes his personality & just wanna be friends.Or should i wait for this girl to come back from the province then engage in an honest talk? I dont text her,she doesnt text me either.I just decided that to be a breather
Thanks buddy
. ,that aint bad.Its a long story,i dont even know how to explain in text.She is a nice single girl,i kinda like her,she gave me butterflies sometimes, but now i'm emotionally strong & cant let pple override me.She said no to a date while we were chatting.Her friend loves joking about us as bf & gf.Its just an indirect perspective.Do you think its a good idea if i go upto her close friend whom she took my contact from? And maybe get some heads up about it?Which will be private.Because she might know what that girl is really upto,coz maybe she wants me to talk to her,u know most girls biologically cant hit directly on a guy,she may even want sth like "friends with benefits with no srings" .Plus its unusual for a girl to just take a guys number & say that she likes his personality & just wanna be friends.Or should i wait for this girl to come back from the province then engage in an honest talk? I dont text her,she doesnt text me either.I just decided that to be a breather
Thanks buddy
Is it a good idea if I ask her friend whom she took my number from what shes really upto? Or should I wait her to return from the province,then engage in an honest talk? I dont text her,she doesnt text me either,i decided that as a breather.What do you think about this,are those ideas ok?
Is it a good idea if I ask her friend whom she took my number from what shes really upto? Or should I wait her to return from the province,then engage in an honest talk? I dont text her,she doesnt text me either,i decided that as a breather.What do you think about this,are those ideas ok?
I suppose those ideas are okay ... You seem to be focusing on her friend's role in this, which is okay up to a certain point. I'm not a fan of checking on someone behind their back, if you don't trust her to tell you what she's really up to, maybe a friendship with her isn't pursuing? You'll have to use your own good judgment on this.