Tsuki
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Hello all,
My name is Tsuki, and I am NOT poly, but am in a blossoming relationship with a young lady who is. I am 37, with 4 kids, Aromantic/Asexual MtF trans woman... who is currently in her first new relationship in 12 years.
I have been completely uninterested in relationships, or sex for the last 2 years, and if not for this one girl, I think I still would be LOL. Have you ever watched a movie, or looked at artwork, or heard a beautiful song, or just witnessed something so beautiful that it inspired you to do something completely out of character? That is exactly what this relationship is to me. It comes with certain challenges though, and I am doing my best to learn all I can, to avoid heartache and drama. Her lifestyle seems counter-intuitive to me, for I used to be very monogamous. I indulged in a momentary 'friends with benefits' arrangement between myself and 2 women, but it was made clear that they didn't want to know anything about each other, and when I was with one, then I was to act like the other didn't exist... so to share a partner with someone and also socialize with them, is difficult for me to accept, and my instinct is heartache and feelings of inadequacy.
I certainly don't begrudge any of your lifestyle choices, so please don't misunderstand. The fault lies with me, and the prejudices are mine to conquer, or at the very least silence. I have come to learn what I can, from people who are experienced in polyamorous relationships, and hopefully gain some insight to avoid pitfalls and common errors in my own.
It is quite lovely to meet you all,
thank you for having me.
-Tsuki
My name is Tsuki, and I am NOT poly, but am in a blossoming relationship with a young lady who is. I am 37, with 4 kids, Aromantic/Asexual MtF trans woman... who is currently in her first new relationship in 12 years.
I have been completely uninterested in relationships, or sex for the last 2 years, and if not for this one girl, I think I still would be LOL. Have you ever watched a movie, or looked at artwork, or heard a beautiful song, or just witnessed something so beautiful that it inspired you to do something completely out of character? That is exactly what this relationship is to me. It comes with certain challenges though, and I am doing my best to learn all I can, to avoid heartache and drama. Her lifestyle seems counter-intuitive to me, for I used to be very monogamous. I indulged in a momentary 'friends with benefits' arrangement between myself and 2 women, but it was made clear that they didn't want to know anything about each other, and when I was with one, then I was to act like the other didn't exist... so to share a partner with someone and also socialize with them, is difficult for me to accept, and my instinct is heartache and feelings of inadequacy.
I certainly don't begrudge any of your lifestyle choices, so please don't misunderstand. The fault lies with me, and the prejudices are mine to conquer, or at the very least silence. I have come to learn what I can, from people who are experienced in polyamorous relationships, and hopefully gain some insight to avoid pitfalls and common errors in my own.
It is quite lovely to meet you all,
thank you for having me.
-Tsuki
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