missmindful
New member
For those who don't know me, I have posted before about dating a man I call The Professor, who has been married to Nadia for 9 years. This has been my first experience with polyamory. I posted about a scheduling problem a week or two ago, in Poly Problem #1. It came out that he had wanted me to date him exclusively, and with much advice from this forum, I told him I was going to start dating again. He didn't like it, but he said he just wanted me to be happy.
So, I ended it, somewhat unknowingly. It seems that The Professor really did not like the idea of me dating other people. Our interactions became awkward and a bit strained after I told him I wanted to date again. Our conversations became centered on things that he was helping me with- training for a race, and my resume. We had a bit of a dom/sub thing going on and he liked helping me, but it started to become uncomfortable for me. When he was unable to schedule sexy time with me yet again after not being together for two weeks and making no plans to meet up, I texted that I was starting to feel as if logistically our relationship did not seem to be working out and that I felt as if I may want more than he was able to give. He did not respond. AT ALL. I sent him a text the next day stating that I did not know what I said to warrant no reply and he said my message seemed quite definitive. WTF? Anyway, it's over. It seems that he wanted more commitment than I was able to give him, I guess, which is just crazy being that he is married and we did not even know each other two months.
So I just wanted to thank you all for your warm welcome, and all of your advice, comments, and opinions. I learned a ton about relationships and myself through this whole thing. I don't know if I will end up in another open relationship. I could see myself opening up a healthy relationship down the road or even starting one open, but I don't know if I would date another married man. Time will tell, I guess. Polyamory seems to be quite the rage here in PDX, so you never know, I may be back.
I wish you all good luck, and I will kind of miss our little chats. This is truly a great little community you have here.
Chow for now!
Miss M
So, I ended it, somewhat unknowingly. It seems that The Professor really did not like the idea of me dating other people. Our interactions became awkward and a bit strained after I told him I wanted to date again. Our conversations became centered on things that he was helping me with- training for a race, and my resume. We had a bit of a dom/sub thing going on and he liked helping me, but it started to become uncomfortable for me. When he was unable to schedule sexy time with me yet again after not being together for two weeks and making no plans to meet up, I texted that I was starting to feel as if logistically our relationship did not seem to be working out and that I felt as if I may want more than he was able to give. He did not respond. AT ALL. I sent him a text the next day stating that I did not know what I said to warrant no reply and he said my message seemed quite definitive. WTF? Anyway, it's over. It seems that he wanted more commitment than I was able to give him, I guess, which is just crazy being that he is married and we did not even know each other two months.
So I just wanted to thank you all for your warm welcome, and all of your advice, comments, and opinions. I learned a ton about relationships and myself through this whole thing. I don't know if I will end up in another open relationship. I could see myself opening up a healthy relationship down the road or even starting one open, but I don't know if I would date another married man. Time will tell, I guess. Polyamory seems to be quite the rage here in PDX, so you never know, I may be back.
I wish you all good luck, and I will kind of miss our little chats. This is truly a great little community you have here. Chow for now!
Miss M
