What is the next step?

[GreenAcres]

To the rest of the thread. My husband and I have agreed to leave things as they are. I will love both of them the best that I can. That is the right thing to do.

Sorry for the hiatus. I was celebrating the holidays, and also working a lot.

I'm glad you decided to leave things for now. Hopefully, your gentleman will talk to his wife, and they can find a way for him to meet his needs, which it sounds like might be something she simply cannot do right now, ethically and respectfully (to themselves and to any potential partners).