RumSodomyLash
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Hello,
I'm Ananas, 29-year-old hetero-flexible female - currently involved in a rather amorphous relationship with NerfHerder (30-year-old straight male), as well as various other connections whose significance has yet to become clear. NerfHerder and I both practice BDSM (it's how we met, and I only date kinksters) - he's dominant and I'm submissive, although in our relationship that dynamic exists only during active sex/play time.
I'm trying very hard to take things as they come, which at the moment means dealing with the fact that he's dating someone who wants him to dump me and be monogamous with her. I'm fairly confident that won't happen, not so much because I'm confident in the strength of his attachment to me, but because I know him well enough to know that he has no interest in monogamy at this point in his life. Still, this whole situation has brought me to my first ever episode of jealousy (I tend to be a remarkably unjealous person - just good luck, I guess). I'm trying to see it as an opportunity to develop my communication skills, as well as my ability to gain understanding of my own feelings, needs, and boundaries (I'm generally better about other people's than my own).
Part of me really likes the idea of a poly tribe, and possibly a poly household, but I have enough work to do on myself that at this point in my life solo poly seems like the best idea. I know that whatever relationship constellation evolves in my life, it will need to involve room for above-average quantities of alone time. I also have a failed (non-kinky and monogamous, although those weren't the reasons why it exploded) marriage behind me (the ex and I get along much better that we're not a couple).
I'm Ananas, 29-year-old hetero-flexible female - currently involved in a rather amorphous relationship with NerfHerder (30-year-old straight male), as well as various other connections whose significance has yet to become clear. NerfHerder and I both practice BDSM (it's how we met, and I only date kinksters) - he's dominant and I'm submissive, although in our relationship that dynamic exists only during active sex/play time.
I'm trying very hard to take things as they come, which at the moment means dealing with the fact that he's dating someone who wants him to dump me and be monogamous with her. I'm fairly confident that won't happen, not so much because I'm confident in the strength of his attachment to me, but because I know him well enough to know that he has no interest in monogamy at this point in his life. Still, this whole situation has brought me to my first ever episode of jealousy (I tend to be a remarkably unjealous person - just good luck, I guess). I'm trying to see it as an opportunity to develop my communication skills, as well as my ability to gain understanding of my own feelings, needs, and boundaries (I'm generally better about other people's than my own).
Part of me really likes the idea of a poly tribe, and possibly a poly household, but I have enough work to do on myself that at this point in my life solo poly seems like the best idea. I know that whatever relationship constellation evolves in my life, it will need to involve room for above-average quantities of alone time. I also have a failed (non-kinky and monogamous, although those weren't the reasons why it exploded) marriage behind me (the ex and I get along much better that we're not a couple).
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