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starlight1

starlight1

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So,
I am wondering what the view is on Incest and polyamory? Such as perhaps, a V shape with a siblings.

For example, my mother dated both my uncle and dad before marrying my dad. My brother and I aren't sure who our dad is, biologically we very well may be half siblings /cousins?

Where does poly and family lines blur and intersect, when is it OK and when is it wrong?

For example, I firmly believe sexual molestation of children is wrong, with the child being a victim.

I also am pretty sure I think sibling sexual experience with each other odd and uncomfortable and wrong (in my mind).

But if all are consenting adults...is it still wrong?

for example just came across a family, (brothers gf) that her dad remarried, and married his ex wife's two sisters.... So essentially he's had sex with all sisters. And I have no idea if they are involved with each other, but they are at least a V in this case. And if they were as adults...is that wrong?

So I have so many confusing thoughts about this.

Just to clarify my own personal boundaries, I have certain people that are "offlimits" those are family, step family, gf BF of family, cousins, second cousins, family of any of my metamours, family of partners, anyone under ten years younger than me, simply because I don't want to dip into my daughters dating pool...any ex husbands family and friends. I think that covers it all. Oh and anyone teaching me or I am paying in a professional capacity. (Doctors, lawyers, therapists etc.)
 
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I don't see what you are describing (guy having sex with 3 sisters, that are not his sisters) as wrong. I don't think that even comes close to incest. I guess it would depend on how the siblings felt about it.

As for actual incest...I guess I wouldn't judge consenting adults. Would not be my thing though. I doubt if I would date a girl that was screwing her brother.
 
Incest is usually defined as sexual activity *between* two (or more) blood relatives.

Someone having two sexual partners who are siblings to each other but not to the "someone" isn't incest. It's someone having two sexual partners who are siblings to each other. It would only be incest if the *siblings* were having sex with each other.
 
I basically approve of anything done between consenting adults. Although, if a brother and sister have sex, they should practice birth control.
 
I have been in a situation where my husband was the hinge and I was related to my metamour. (We were not romantically involved) Let me just say if and when this ends poorly Christmas and the Grandparents house will be screwed.
 
My mom made out with nate a few years ago when she visited, I had to put the kabash on that. Sharing a lover with a family member grosses me out
 
KC43 said:
Incest is usually defined as sexual activity *between* two (or more) blood relatives.

Someone having two sexual partners who are siblings to each other but not to the "someone" isn't incest. It's someone having two sexual partners who are siblings to each other. It would only be incest if the *siblings* were having sex with each other.
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I understand the literal definition being that way...but how would you not come across sexual situations long term with this? I mean, accident you walking in on them naked, etc. or sharing a same bed...lots of hing vs do this. To me it opens the doors for confusion and incest with both siblings involved with same man....
 
Inyourendo said:
My mom made out with nate a few years ago when she visited, I had to put the kabash on that. Sharing a lover with a family member grosses me out
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I am totally with you here. It grossed me out with my step great uncle (who in reality isn't that much older than me, but still ew.) I have known him since I was 9, so was he looking at me then!? Ew. Ew . Ew.

Sorry this happened to you, how did that conversation go down with mom? I am imagining a very funny comic strip...lol
 
thistle said:
I have been in a situation where my husband was the hinge and I was related to my metamour. (We were not romantically involved) Let me just say if and when this ends poorly Christmas and the Grandparents house will be screwed.
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Please clarify, this just begs clarification. Lol.
 
vinsanity0 said:
I don't see what you are describing (guy having sex with 3 sisters, that are not his sisters) as wrong. I don't think that even comes close to incest. I guess it would depend on how the siblings felt about it.

As for actual incest...I guess I wouldn't judge consenting adults. Would not be my thing though. I doubt if I would date a girl that was screwing her brother.
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Why not? I know my why just curious about yours.
 
starlight1 said:
I am totally with you here. It grossed me out with my step great uncle (who in reality isn't that much older than me, but still ew.) I have known him since I was 9, so was he looking at me then!? Ew. Ew . Ew.

Sorry this happened to you, how did that conversation go down with mom? I am imagining a very funny comic strip...lol
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Mom was drinking, I went out for a but and shw straddled nate on the couch and started tonguing him lol. I just told nate no and didn't talk to my mom about it because i figured nate could turn her down if she happened to hit on him again
 
Inyourendo said:
Mom was drinking, I went out for a but and shw straddled nate on the couch and started tonguing him lol. I just told nate no and didn't talk to my mom about it because i figured nate could turn her down if she happened to hit on him again
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Go you. ;)
And way to put the responbility square in his lap....quite literally!
 
My boyfriend told me about how he'd been fwb with a girl when he was introduced to her sister, and they got it off real well and started dating. It icked me out a little, but only because I couldn't help but imagine if it was one of my sisters. But then, I don't know if it's a moral thing so much as I don't think either of them are very sexually safe, as well as we were all pretty jealous of each other growing up, and I don't think I could handle either as a metamour.
 
starlight1 said:
Why not? I know my why just curious about yours.
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I don't know. I just feel I wouldn't. Maybe it's part of our genetic make-up?

After reading something you posted above, I was reminded of a threesome I had with two stepsisters. They were roomates. The one walked in on the two of us accidentally (I think). One thing led to another and... That did not bother me one bit because they weren't blood related.
 
My dad was actually married to my mom's older sister before he was married to my mom. I have a 3/4 brother, lol.

I think that anything that happens between consenting adults is fine, but I wouldn't want to date my partners' siblings because I wouldn't want to cause any weirdness in the family if things went poorly.

TBH, I've always found incest storylines in erotic fiction pretty hot, and I know it can't be uncommon to feel that way because there are so many instances of it around (even getting as mainstream as Game of Thrones these days). I don't know if I would think it was hot if it was happening in real life with people I knew (fantasies are often only fantasy for a reason), but I wouldn't be squicked out by it, I don't think.
 
There have been two instances in my life where my sister and I were both dating the same guy at the same time. Never on group dates, though - always separately. I guess it was weird, but it didn't seem weird back then, actually. That was a long time ago. That's not incest. I never found the idea of incest appealing, nor had any attraction to any family members.

There was also this one guy I used to go out with just for sex, and I did fuck his son a couple of times. The father actually set it up (he would never be present while I was with his son). I liked them both. Again, it did not seem weird to be in that situation at the time (in fact, I thought it was pretty hot!), but I could understand how weird it would seem to someone else.

I was in my early 20s when I was having these adventures. I am not sure I would do things like that nowadays.

You know, in the olde days, if a woman was widowed or abandoned by her husband, and he had an unmarried brother, it was quite common for that brother to marry his widowed sister-in-law. That happened in my family. My gggm had six young kids when my gggf (a shoemaker) died, and so his brother (a tailor) married her and helped raise his brother's children.

In a different branch of my family tree, my ggm married the son of her half-brother -- essentially her nephew. They were both about the same age and had the same surname. Her father had married a second or third cousin, who also had the same surname. So, these kinds of things were pretty common, especially in smaller communities.
 
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starlight1 said:
I understand the literal definition being that way...but how would you not come across sexual situations long term with this? I mean, accident you walking in on them naked, etc. or sharing a same bed...lots of hing vs do this. To me it opens the doors for confusion and incest with both siblings involved with same man....
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My husband has been dating his girlfriend for 6 1/2 years. While I might occasionally overhear something based on where I am in the house, I've never walked in on them or slept in the same bed with them, so not everyone does this. They're at my house at the same time I am at least once a week, but that's what the extra room is for.
 
I think it is weird for my husband even to say that my sister is hot. We are already too close (her personality as well as her looks are rather similar to me), to share a partner would be over the top.
 
Hannahfluke said:
My husband has been dating his girlfriend for 6 1/2 years. While I might occasionally overhear something based on where I am in the house, I've never walked in on them or slept in the same bed with them, so not everyone does this. They're at my house at the same time I am at least once a week, but that's what the extra room is for.
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Healthy boundaries for the win. Perhaps in my case I get squidgy because there's a lack of healthy boundaries in my past and I struggle with this, so wouldn't want to have siblings involved as well.
 
starlight1 said:
Healthy boundaries for the win. Perhaps in my case I get squidgy because there's a lack of healthy boundaries in my past and I struggle with this, so wouldn't want to have siblings involved as well.
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Even with the healthy boundaries, I wouldn't want my partners dating my sisters. My younger sister has some mental health issues that would create way too much drama and my older sister is just not someone I'd want to share a partner with. If I were bi and dated women, I wouldn't want to date anyone who was also dating my brothers either. It's not necessarily the mental health issues with my little sister that are the issue, in and of themselves, since I suffer from depression and anxiety myself and feel like I'm a good partner most of the time, it's the fact that my sister thrives on drama, always makes everything a competition and those traits seem to be amplified by her mental health issues.
 
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