Emm didn't say she thought you were trying to shock us; she was only responding to the apology you went on about because you thought you made people uncomfortable, though I don't know why you thought that. I also don't know why you got snippy with my fellow Moderator.
Also I think your analogy is dumb. Personally I consider how the car is driven quite important.
Asking for cycling advice has nothing to do with cars.
Anyhoo...
FWIW, we talk about sex here quite often, and quite graphically, so it's acceptable to discuss sex-related topics here - but the words in your title just didn't make sense to me, being completely unfamiliar. In fact, I thought it was a spam post with nonsense words in the title and almost deleted it and banned you until I read the content of your post.
When anyone here says that this forum is more focused on relationships than sex, it is true. While very few members here ever shy away from discussing sex and sex acts (we have a huge thread here on BDsm also), this forum is about
polyamory -- and that means our focus here is more about developing and maintaining multiple loving relationships. Sex is often a part of that (but one can be poly and asexual as well), but we emphasize the loving quality of relationships here because we want to encourage polyamorists to feel comfortable here with the unique issues we deal with. While swingers and people who engage in recreational NSA sex are also welcome, they need to read the forum and realize that our focus is different from the focus when swinging.
It's a good idea to read our Guidelines and our forums to get familiar with the tone here before posting or getting bent out of shape over anything.
Anyway, if this topic is sex-related, perhaps there is a sex-related online community/forum that would know about it. You said you just discovered it, so maybe wherever you learned about it can point you to other resources. Have you tried FetLife?