Pompoir / kabbazza

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I recently discovered this and I can't find any good information sources on it. I'm doing quite well on my own but could be better. The only information articles etc I can find are either websites trying to sell me excercise programs for it or articles written by dick head men which imply it's for 'keeping men' that make me feel quite uncomfortable. does anyone have any expertise in this?
 
In pompoir or kabbazza? I had never heard of either of those before. Can't find them on Wiktionary but I found "pompoir" and "kabazzah" on Wikipedia. Perhaps that article (and its references) would be of some help?

Sounds like Kegel exercises would help with this.
 
Kegel is pelvic floor, Pompoir is vaginal muscles. It's annoying I can't find anything more than that wiki thing. I was hoping there would be a decent book on it but it seems a lot of stuff is badly written or just rubbish. :-(
 
Upon browsing I've noticed there is no previous thread for this I could look at and also that you lot don't tend to chat about this kind of thing. In retrospect I would like to apologise if this subject matter made anyone uncomfortable.
 
I'm not uncomfortable, just sorry I couldn't be of more help.
 
You've been really helpful since I came in here. It's a general thing I figured would be good to express because I noticed it is not common for people to talk about specific sex acts in this forum.
 
I find that worrying. I've made the effort to make everyone feel comfortable by at least achknowlesging that people such as yourself may feel uncomfortable and your response is to imply relationships cannot be about sex. That makes me uncomfortable. I apologised for opening up talk about specific sex acts such as Pompoir because I realise now that this forum is totally public and anyone can read it as well as because I realise this is not a topic often discussed. You need to understand absolutely that I am not apologising for who I am.
 
I don't see anyone offended and people frequently get fairly specific, mainly in their blogs. I think Emm was simply pointing out that most topics here tend to be about the emotional and interpersonal aspects of being involved with more than one person.

Leetah
 
You're going to have to try harder than that if you want to shock people here. Your topic isn't uncomfortable, it's simply irrelevant to most of us.

If you want advice on a specific obscure sexual practice you'd probably be more successful if you find a site upon which it is discussed, or at least where it's vaguely familiar to the people posting. Asking about it here is a bit like asking for cycling advice on a car forum. You might end up with your questions answered, but only because one or two of the regulars also know about bikes, not because a car site is a logical place to ask about them.
 
Your topic isn't uncomfortable, it's simply irrelevant to most of us.

Also, unclear what the topic of this thread even is or that it's about sex. The thread title is "Pompoir / kabbazza" and is referenced as "exercise" in the OP. I don't understand the topic enough to even begin to feel uncomfortable. That said, this crowd has never shied away from discussing of actual sex, it's just that there are many, many places on the Internet to talk about sex and exceedingly few that offer helpful insights about poly relationships. So we focus on the latter here, because this forum community is magnificent at it.
 
You're going to have to try harder than that if you want to shock people here. Your topic isn't uncomfortable, it's simply irrelevant to most of us.

If you want advice on a specific obscure sexual practice you'd probably be more successful if you find a site upon which it is discussed, or at least where it's vaguely familiar to the people posting. Asking about it here is a bit like asking for cycling advice on a car forum. You might end up with your questions answered, but only because one or two of the regulars also know about bikes, not because a car site is a logical place to ask about them.

I have no interest in shocking you or anyone else. Sorry to break it to you but my presence in this forum isn't as a result of a dying desire to affect your feelings.

Also I think your analogy is dumb. Personally I consider how the car is driven quite important.
 
Emm didn't say she thought you were trying to shock us; she was only responding to the apology you went on about because you thought you made people uncomfortable, though I don't know why you thought that. I also don't know why you got snippy with my fellow Moderator.

Also I think your analogy is dumb. Personally I consider how the car is driven quite important.
Asking for cycling advice has nothing to do with cars. :confused:

Anyhoo... :rolleyes:

FWIW, we talk about sex here quite often, and quite graphically, so it's acceptable to discuss sex-related topics here - but the words in your title just didn't make sense to me, being completely unfamiliar. In fact, I thought it was a spam post with nonsense words in the title and almost deleted it and banned you until I read the content of your post.

When anyone here says that this forum is more focused on relationships than sex, it is true. While very few members here ever shy away from discussing sex and sex acts (we have a huge thread here on BDsm also), this forum is about polyamory -- and that means our focus here is more about developing and maintaining multiple loving relationships. Sex is often a part of that (but one can be poly and asexual as well), but we emphasize the loving quality of relationships here because we want to encourage polyamorists to feel comfortable here with the unique issues we deal with. While swingers and people who engage in recreational NSA sex are also welcome, they need to read the forum and realize that our focus is different from the focus when swinging.

It's a good idea to read our Guidelines and our forums to get familiar with the tone here before posting or getting bent out of shape over anything.

Anyway, if this topic is sex-related, perhaps there is a sex-related online community/forum that would know about it. You said you just discovered it, so maybe wherever you learned about it can point you to other resources. Have you tried FetLife?
 
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Personally I consider how the car is driven quite important.
You didn't actually read a word I wrote, did you?

Edit: OK, trying again, just in case you actually want to communicate rather than just find reasons to throw your toys out of the pram:

Nobody is upset, offended, uncomfortable, or otherwise put out by your question about a sexual act.

You are welcome to ask your question, however given that this is not a forum about that subject, you shouldn't be surprised if nobody has an answer for you. If people have to Google it in order to work out what you're talking about, it doesn't bode well for them having any information you couldn't find yourself with a similar search.

Getting pissy isn't suddenly going to turn this from a predominantly relationship-oriented forum to one filled with people knowledgeable about a specific sexual activity. If you want information about such an activity, perhaps you would be better served asking your question somewhere people have some idea of what you're talking about.

That does not mean you're being judged for asking a question about sex, or that you're not welcome to stick around and talk relationship stuff (including sex) with us; it just means you are probably wasting your time if you expect us to give you information about a subject we know very little about.
 
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Pollynym, I love how you write with your British accent and idioms like "throw my toys out the pram." Please don't do that now!

I've been around the block sexually, hell I'm 61 and have been dating and having sex for 45 years, married, and now poly dating and relationshipping, and I am kinky... I haven't heard of these exercises and don't understand why they are necessary. I just have lots of sex and strong orgasms-- my vag can pull a condom right off when I bear down during orgasm and ejaculation. I have to pull back and get a cock out of me to cum so I don't remove the condom. That is how strong my muscles are. Sometimes it takes a new guy time to get used to that, he might feel rejected a bit. But my spurting fluids can't even come out with a cock blocking my urethra.

It was quite amusing when I had my first MFM threeway this summer and my longer term partner and the newer guy were discussing this proclivity of mine while we were in the thick of it lol!

Anyway, I wonder why you feel a need to do, not just Kegels, but this "new" exercise for your vajayay? Is it really necessary? Just have sex!
 
I've been reading this site for about four years, and have seen a fair number of sexually-oriented topics floating about. It's not unusual. The reason why I come here is for the discussions regarding relationships (I'm mono, but I have found much help on this forum regarding communication most of all.)

If someone responds to you in a way you find off-putting, there are ways to "ignore" them (Kevin knows how; I don't). I just don't see how what anyone said could have caused such a negative reaction.
 
Let's talk about sex! I am fine talking about sex! Sex is fun! Sex is a major part of many of my former and hopefully future relationships.

I don't understand the huffiness here.

Sex Sex Sex

It's a thing we do that deserves discussion from time to time. Positions, frequency, doing it twice in one day with 2 different partners, making out, sneaking sex while the kids are in the house, orgasms at the restaurant table stealth, doing 3somes, 4some, whips and ropes, feathers and fur, hot wax and strap ons, corsets and stockings... Whatever!

America is way too prudish. Still.
 
Pollynym, I love how you write with your British accent and idioms like "throw my toys out the pram." Please don't do that now!

I've been around the block sexually, hell I'm 61 and have been dating and having sex for 45 years, married, and now poly dating and relationshipping, and I am kinky... I haven't heard of these exercises and don't understand why they are necessary. I just have lots of sex and strong orgasms-- my vag can pull a condom right off when I bear down during orgasm and ejaculation. I have to pull back and get a cock out of me to cum so I don't remove the condom. That is how strong my muscles are. Sometimes it takes a new guy time to get used to that, he might feel rejected a bit. But my spurting fluids can't even come out with a cock blocking my urethra.

It was quite amusing when I had my first MFM threeway this summer and my longer term partner and the newer guy were discussing this proclivity of mine while we were in the thick of it lol!

Anyway, I wonder why you feel a need to do, not just Kegels, but this "new" exercise for your vajayay? Is it really necessary? Just have sex!

Oh my gosh! I have exactly the same thing with condoms. I hate the things, you wear em thinking yeah that's safe but it's not. Because you end up loosing the bloody thing.

Thing is with this Pompoir thing, from what I can gather it's part of the karma sutra and there's this move I found on a blog where you move the muscles separately, kinda like lifting one eye brow. I'm finding myself sitting in my room trying to work out if I've managed it, hence why I'm asking around.
 
Re (from powerpuffgrl1969):
"If someone responds to you in a way you find off-putting, there are ways to 'ignore' them (Kevin knows how; I don't)."

Go to the person's profile page, click on "User Lists," then click on "Add to Ignore List."
 
Oh my gosh! I have exactly the same thing with condoms. I hate the things, you wear em thinking yeah that's safe but it's not. Because you end up loosing the bloody thing.

Well, it only happened to me once, and since then I am careful to pull back so the penis isnt in me when I feel a big O coming on. But it is concerning.

Thing is with this Pompoir thing, from what I can gather it's part of the karma sutra and there's this move I found on a blog where you move the muscles separately, kinda like lifting one eye brow. I'm finding myself sitting in my room trying to work out if I've managed it, hence why I'm asking around.

Oh, I see. So it's not so much to tone your vagina as with Kegels, but to learn to control the actual muscles individually and voluntarily.
 
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